r/BoyDinnerDiaries • u/Prize-Lychee7973 [Femboy(ish)] • Jul 26 '26

Mod post A reminder

We are keeping this a positive helpful space.
What does this mean? It means critiques and comments that are not immediately positive in nature are things YOU, the poster/commenter must view in the light of this: is it helpful? does it fit the situation? is this some tough love and if so who are you to give it? if you are being adversarial or confrontation just because, just keep it pushing. If not, we will mod the comment, you will receive a deletion/mute/ban or whatever else we feel appropriate.

Refamiliarize yourselves with our rules.

For Girl lurkers, this is a male positive centric space. critiques and supportive comments are welcome, HOWEVER, keep in mind you are a guest, our tolerance here for rude, adversarial and needlessly argumentative comments is effectively zero.

For the recent posts concerning LGBT, read rule 7. We do not tolerate transphobia, we do not tolerate homophobia, we are not that space. If you are transphobic or homophobic, it is a violation of several rules and will likely result in a ban.

Thank you to the literal thousands of commenters who are contributing helpful, insightful and otherwise positive comments, we appreciate your presence.

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u/Xeta24 Air Fryer Aristocrat Jul 27 '26 edited Jul 27 '26

I think in most cases online, it's impossible to give real tough love. Tough love isn't just called tough because it's hard to recieve it, it's supposed to be hard to give out.

It's hard to give tough love to friends and family, but random strangers on the internet?

Not so much, it's really easy to be critical and cutting to random people you will never see, realistically care about or know anything about.

This isn't to say bluntness and honesty isn't valuable, but I believe most people who say they're giving tough love online, are just looking for an excuse to say whatever they feel like to people they do not know.

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u/afoolishscholar Shower Beer Scholar 18d ago edited 14d ago

It's getting so bad I'm considering scraping this subreddit and making a visual guide of the boy:girl comment ratios, because just eyeballing it I wouldn't be surprised if ATLEAST 1/4 of participation are women. I think making it similar to the girldinnerdiaries rules, like making it so women can only post gif's would be the best option and would cut back on a lot of this toxic "tough love". If the girl equivalent of this sub had even a fraction of this "tough love" they'd be banned from the subreddit immediately.