r/AskFeministWomen • • 2d ago

What are the feminist perspectives on women seeking casual, no-strings-attached sexual encounters? NSFW

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i'm just so fucking curious y'know i've been reading all these things about feminism and sexual liberation and stuff and i was like... what if i just wanna fuck without all the strings attached like is that cool or what it's not like i don't respect myself or anything i just really really like sex and i wanna have it with whoever whenever it feels right y'know so like what's the feminist perspective on that


r/AskFeministWomen • • Aug 21 '26

Military conscription NSFW

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Do you support equality in the case of mandatory military conscription?


r/AskFeministWomen • • May 06 '26

Relationship Dynamics NSFW

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My wife and I have talked a lot lately about more female-led dynamics in our marriage. For women who prefer or appreciate that dynamic, what benefits do you feel it brings to a relationship?


r/AskFeministWomen • • May 05 '26

Explaining feminism NSFW

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(Man here) I was at dinner with some friends (he and his wife, and their kids).

The man mentioned that he saw feminist collages down his flat ("All men are rapist") and that he felt this was wrong and insulting (eg "Not all men", etc), and went to tear them down.

I said I understand his feelings, but that the message was probably purposefully trying to be shocking in order to convey a bigger message (eg "we live in a misogynistic society", "our patriarcal society is built on rape culture", etc), rather than obviously trying to state that "100% of men have committed actual rape".

But it was hard to make him understand. Also his wife (perhaps because of the situation) supported him, the kids too (perhaps too young to understand the provocation in the message).

I was a bit at a loss, because the guy is quite educated, perhaps has center-right views (in Europe, less crazy than in the US), so I thought he could probably be made to understand that.

He also mentioned he thinks that provocative messages are counter-productive. I tried to mention that "simply using nice messaging" hasn't worked so well for women in the last 100 years, so that might explain why they try other tactics

I'd like to know from your point of view:

  1. what do you (individually) think of "shock tactics"? Are they useful? Are they complementary to the rest? Should they be central?

  2. What would have been the best way to convey what the feminist collage was trying to say, and to have him try to get the message rather than sulk?


r/AskFeministWomen • • Apr 15 '26

Who are your favorite feminist authors and why? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Apr 13 '26

Why do so many people think it’s supposed to hurt for the first time? NSFW

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It’s kinda unsettling that so many girls think their first time is SUPPOSE to hurt. This surprised me and a lot of my HGS. It’s not. There shouldn’t be any pain especially not long term and unbearable pain (discomfort or feeling nervous and vulnerable for both genders can be normal because it’s something new) but it should never be bad pain unless it’s something like vaginismus. My question is why do so many people think it’s supposed to hurt? Is the lack of sex ed? Where did this myth come from?

I understand there are cases like this where it can but majority of women should not be expecting pain for our first time and you should not be worried. The hymen doesn’t break its an elastic band, when it tears or stretches a lot of people shouldn’t feel pain, a lot of us don’t even bleed or feel it and it usually happens with self exploration or when we are kids or some of us are born without one. It does not “break” during sex it’s not a thin wall. If it does “tear” it’s a small split.

Pain is caused by lack of foreplay, not turned on, not enough lubrication, too fast and being nervous foreplay is very important please don’t think pain is suppose to happen and you have to endure it. Please take your time and don’t think you are suppose to push through the pain. Good sex should not hurt. Sorry if you already knew this but I wanted to share for the women and teens who do not.


r/AskFeministWomen • • Feb 06 '26

Have you watched Animal ? NSFW

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What are your thoughts on Animal..?


r/AskFeministWomen • • Jan 08 '26

When is a female character written in a misogynistic way? NSFW

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I would like to ask this sub for opinions on when female characters are written in a misogynistic way, by which I mean how you recognize it.

I'm especially interested in your opinion on the difference between a female villain, even an irredeemably evil one and a female character depicted in a misogynistic way.

In my opinion, the usual signs are being sidelined, often in favor of male characters despite having or starting out with a major role and narrative significance, like she starts out as a major antagonist with ties to the stakes of the story, but then there's a male character who takes on her role and she gets relegated to the background.

This is something that happens to female characters regardless of moral alignment.

Other signs are common female stereotypes like being vain, overly concerned with physical appearance which is used to portray her as shallow and vapid.


r/AskFeministWomen • • Jan 02 '26

Thoughts on former Trump supporters? NSFW

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I hear that a lot of women refuse to date Trump supporters. What about someone who used to support Trump but no longer does and regrets their support for him? Additionally, would you be willing to be friends with/talk to former Trump supporters?


r/AskFeministWomen • • Dec 17 '25

Why do so many women support content that reinforces patriarchy? NSFW

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We talk a lot about dismantling patriarchy, but when I look at the engagement on posts like these, I’m struck by how many likes and supportive comments come from women themselves.

Why do we continue to participate in narratives that ultimately harm us? Is it internalised misogyny, conditioning, or survival within the system?

I’m genuinely curious about how we begin to interrupt this cycle rather than unknowingly sustain it.

The points she raises feel important (referring to @ranter_p on Instagram).


r/AskFeministWomen • • Sep 30 '25

Could Toxic Masculinity qualify as an Evolutionary Mismatch? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Sep 18 '25

How to vet potential dates for right-wing and fascism? NSFW

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Searched the sub for this, couldn't find it specifically. I'm sure its been asked before.

Just had a situation where the sweet guy I'd been dating for 2 months freaked out when I said "fuck that guy" about Charlie Kirk. And he knew I was an anarchist from the start.

In my experience, right-wing guys usually don't present that side of themselves until they feel like you're too invested to leave. (My greatest fear tbh.)

I'm on the dating apps- should I put leftist only and black flags 🏴🏴 in my bio?

How to vet candidates? Edit to add: im in a rural area.


r/AskFeministWomen • • Aug 19 '25

What do you think about misogynistic women NSFW

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I’m interested in how women think about misogynistic women who see this as a kink and whether you’ve ever had such sexual thoughts. Nowadays, the charm of pornography and the embodiment in the films has become everyday life. What does that do to you women?


r/AskFeministWomen • • Jul 01 '25

What is your definition/interpretation of feminism? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Jun 23 '25

What do you think of women who sell their dirty panties? NSFW

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I’ve sold panties online for years, and I consider myself a feminist. For me, it’s always felt like a way to reclaim control over my body and sexuality.

But I’m also aware that not everyone sees it that way. Some argue that it reinforces the sexualization of women, or that it’s just another example of capitalism profiting off our bodies.

Curious to hear your perspectives :)


r/AskFeministWomen • • Jun 13 '25

Does Elizabeth Holmes prove something? NSFW

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I do not discount that many women still today have to work extra hard to prove they are capable and intelligent. But she seemingly effortlessly convinced a bunch of rich old conservative men that she is the kind of genius that is born maybe once in a century. She is white, and quite attractive - but she did not play into that at all with her shitty Steve Jobs wannabe shtick. Does it prove that women are gradually taken more seriously? Would she be able to pull it off now when the political climate seems to have shifted so much backwards? Was Bankman Fried so successful only because people generally did not know how important Caroline Ellison was for the whole operation? Or do misogynists think to themselves: "this woman is clearly a first rate genius, but being a woman she can't be smart enough to fool me".


r/AskFeministWomen • • Jun 11 '25

What standard do you use to measure the success/ progress of women in society? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Apr 26 '25

Do you feel feminists and feminism are owed women's support or loyalty? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Apr 05 '25

Do you care if your hospital nurse is a male? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Apr 02 '25

How would you raise your son regarding to women? NSFW

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As a new Father to a son, this is on my mind.

My own thinking is that teaching him that people, like either of us, are worth treating well because they atter like we do, is obvious regardless of who they are or what sex they are. Specific people though, will have specific needs and pressures. Women and girls will have threats, pressures and fears that he might otherwise be largely oblivious to.

Teaching to treat them like Queens stinks of benevolent sexism, or as infantalisation.

Just my thoughts.


r/AskFeministWomen • • Feb 18 '25

What do you think about a girls dad and brother intimidating her boyfriend? NSFW

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r/AskFeministWomen • • Dec 29 '24

What would be a good slogan for a feminist March sign? NSFW

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I’m going on a women’s march in the uk next month and I’m struggling to think of a good/original slogan to put on a sign. The angrier the better. Any ideas?


r/AskFeministWomen • • Dec 08 '24

Can a man be? NSFW

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Can a man be a feminist? (Asking for a friend)


r/AskFeministWomen • • Oct 19 '24

(CW: SA) What are your thoughts on how the NISVS treats male SA victims - especially male victims of women? NSFW

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https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/documentation/nisvsReportonSexualViolence.pdf

Here's the PDF. My primary focus will be on pages 1, 3, and 32 respectively (I'm referring to the page numbers listed on the top of each page, not the pdf's page numbers - as there are a few cover pages and such that cause a discrepancy between the two numbers)

Rape, as it pertains to this study, is defined on pdf page 1 as "completed or attempted unwanted vaginal, oral, or anal penetration through the use of physical force or drug facilitation" - they also included being too drunk to consent, passed out, threatened with violence, etc.

They differentiate this from "being made to penetrate someone else" - which they define as when a (male) victim was "made to, or an attempt was made to make them, sexually penetrate someone without the victim's consent" - they use the same reasoning - violence, drugs, threats.

Strangely, they again separate both of these things from sexual coercion, which is being "pressured in a nonphysical way" - such as blackmail, gaslighting, lying, pressuring, and "influence or authority" - it's not specifically mentioned, but I believe that Quid-Pro-Quo sexual harassment would fall under this category.

There are a few other definitions (unwanted sexual contact, sexual harassment) that are of course important but are not the subject of this particular post.

On page 3, they publish their overall findings, stating (emphasis mine):

  • 1 in 4 women reported completed or attempted rape during her lifetime
  • 1 in 9 men reported being made to penetrate someone during his lifetime.

Of course, notably - neither of these numbers include sexual coercion.

Personally, I consider rape, sexual coercion, and 'a man being forced to penetrate someone without his consent' as simply being different forms of the same thing, rape - and while the level of depravity, trauma and violence varies from instance to instance, each fall under the category of rape, and should be treated as such.

The specific numbers for rape, SC, and MTP against women are on page 31, and the same for men is on page 32.

If you only count what they consider rape - the overwhelming majority of perpetrators are men, even rapes against other men. But when you consider all three at once, 31% of instances of completed or attempted nonconsensual heterosexual sex have male victims and female perpetrators in the 12 months prior to the study. (3,218,000 male victims of women as opposed to 7,264,000 female victims of men in the year of 2016) - one every 9.8 seconds as opposed to one every 4.3 seconds. Both are staggering metrics.

The reason why I chose to only include heterosexual nonconsensual sex is because the number for female-on-female rape and male-on-male MTP rape that the CDC found were too low to produce population statistics with a confidence interval of 95%, so I find that it would be disingenuous to include both. If you're like me and want to know anyways, the number of male-on-male rapes in 2016 was 244,000 and the number of the same for sexual coercion was 311,000 - still staggering but of course these two combined still only account for 14.7% of male victims.

As you could probably guess, I have a lot of thoughts about the CDC's decision to not count "a man being violently forced to have sex with someone" as rape. I believe that if this level of euphemism was used to define sexual assault against women, it would rightfully be called out as rape culture.

My questions are as follows:

  1. Do you believe that "a man being made to penetrate someone" should be treated as rape?
  2. Why do you believe the CDC chose not to do so?
  3. If your answer to 1 was yes, do you believe that this fits the definition of rape culture?
  4. What are your overall thoughts on how the CDC treats male victims, particularly in the case of male victims of women?

r/AskFeministWomen • • Sep 10 '24

How can I deal with mysognistic freinds? NSFW

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