r/weddingshaming • u/Archi_penko • 5d ago

Cringe Stop inviting me to your wedding after party

I’m tired of being treated like a C list friend and getting invited to only the wedding after party. Just don’t invite us! I got a text last week inviting me to the bar at 10:30pm after the full wedding has ended. So you want me to show up when you all are drunk and tired and dressed up? I find this trend to be rude, just don’t invite me!

Edit: this has happened twice to me. Once, I flew to another city only to realize I was invited to JUST the dancing, arriving after dinner had been served.

The second, I got a text a few days to come to a dive bar at 10:30pm after the ceremony and reception. I also happened to invite this person to my wedding earlier in the year, not that that entitles me to anything.

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u/Impossible_Worth_874 5d ago

Weddings are crazy. Etiquette has gone out the window. The budget for a wedding is pricey so it’s understandable to invite close family and friends. What’s not proper or acceptable is inviting guests in so called tiers. If a couple cannot afford to host a wedding in its entirety don’t do it. It lacks etiquette and it’s rude and tacky. Host a champagne toast with friends and relatives that were not invited and maybe cake. But don’t invite certain guests to only certain parts of the wedding.

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u/JeffBezosLizard 5d ago

Is a champagne toast not exactly this (inviting people in tiers)? Genuinely asking what the difference here is.

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u/LastCookie3448 5d ago

That was EXACTLY why Taylor Swift went HUGE. She said the biggest hardship with most weddings is having to make those cuts and she doesn’t think it’s right to invite people in tiers.

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u/blackcurrantandapple 5d ago

Didn't she make people she wasn't as close with arrive 3hrs before the ceremony? Sounds like tiers to me

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u/Not_My_Emperor 5d ago

Also that woman doesn't have to worry about dollar signs again for the rest of her life I don't really want to hear about how she was so magnanimous for including all the people in that big club we aren't in

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u/StrictPower2630 4d ago

Taylor swift is a douche