I went to someone else’s wedding dressed like the Bride

[u/bitchybarbie82]

This was years ago but I had to share the story where I was tragically shame worthy.

I attended an Indian Wedding in the United States as a +1 to a very good friend who was going through a bad breakup and didn’t want to be around his Ex, her family, and her friends alone (same community, no way to avoid each other). Generally in Indian weddings, especially lavish ones, there’s NO WAY to upstage the Bride… But no one told me that the Bride had decided to forgo Indian attire and wear traditionally Western bridal wear. The ceremony was a small intimate, gathering between the bride, groom, and they’re immediate families. Most of us were only invited to the reception, which was MUCH LARGER with about 250 people.

We arrived about 20 mins late to the reception because of an accident near the George Washington Bridge. So there we were, entering about 10 mins after the Bride and Groom…. And me in my big puffy, WHITE AND BLUSH, very bridal looking dress. So horribly awkward that every woman who got near me glared like they wished I’d disappear. Believe me, I wanted to. I tried to stay in my seat as much as possible and only get up for things like toasts or to use the bathroom. It was so obviously Bridal looking that when I was exiting the bathrooms an old man said “oh excuse me, I didn’t know there was more than one wedding taking place here today”. I eventually told my friend it was best I left because the Bride didn’t deserve to feel disrespected. I asked my friend to please get her mailing information so that I could send her a big gift as my way of saying sorry and she told him “No Thanks”.

Even though it wasn’t on purpose, that day, I was definitely TA

Pic for reference

[u/UsualHour1463]

If it had been traditional Indian wedding, you would have fit in perfectly. I am so sorry for how it worked out. Thanks for sharing the story

[u/jaqen_hagar_1 → u/UsualHour1463]

But “traditional Indian wedding” isn’t just one thing. Every region of India had their own traditions. India has Christian’s and Catholics too and their traditions look very different from the mainstream representation of Indian culture

Edit: don’t understand why this is getting downvoted lol. Just bringing in some nuance to this whole “Indian wedding” conversation. This is exactly the nuance that OP probably missed before deciding to wear a white wedding gown to this wedding.

[u/KVonnegutK → u/UsualHour1463]

Isn't it the guests responsibility to be 100% sure what the dress code is? Bit weird to think ppl should tell you, you should be asking and confirming, otherwise you should not take the risk.

[u/KVonnegutK → u/[deleted]]

That is generally true, but if you want to dress white, you better ask. Simple as