Don't lose hope guys! There are genuine people here, but you have to be smart.
We all know there's a huge influx of Telegram bots and fake accounts. It can be discouraging sending messages because they either get buried in a sea of replies or you end up talking to a bot or some dude trying to fish for pics.
I've actually had some success sending messages, but I've had much more success by posting my own ad. A well-written post gives people a chance to get to know you before reaching out, and the conversations tend to be much more genuine.
I met a lot of single women here and met a few couples who are now regular play partners and I met some people who are just visiting who wanted a quick date, and met some couples too who were just visiting and looking for a third.
A few things that have worked for me:
- Put effort into your post. Talk about your hobbies or personality, and what you're actually looking for.... be direct.
- when sending pics send recent, authentic photos. It builds trust and makes people more comfortable and dont get offended if you get rejected. Trust me you'll get rejected and you gotta get used to it.
- Be honest about your expectations from the beginning.
- Respect people's boundaries. Not everyone will be a match, and that's okay...
- Be patient. Good conversations and real connections take time. But don't take too much time either!
- Focus on quality over quantity. A few meaningful conversations are worth more than dozens of one-word messages....
- Also dont use chatgpt or Ai we can smell that shit from a mile away.
How to avoid getting catfished or scammed:
- Ask for a recent verification photo. For example, ask them to hold up a specific hand sign or gesture that wasn't in any of their posted pictures.
- Have a quick video call if they're comfortable, or at least exchange a short voice note before making plans.
- If someone refuses every reasonable way of verifying they're real, that's a major red flag.
- Take your time getting to know someone before sharing personal information or making plans to meet.
- meet in public first! Always meet at a bar, cafe, or the park if you vibe with the person ask them whats next.
As for hotwives and couples looking for a third, this is my checklist on what ask the husband or the couple:
- Does your partner know you're talking to bulls?
- Has your partner explicitly consented to this dynamic?
- Would your partner be willing to join a quick video call so we can all confirm everyone's on the same page or a phone call?
- Would your partner be willing to join a group chat so everyone can verify they're aware and genuinely interested in the lifestyle?
- What boundaries have the two of you established?
- Have you discussed expectations, ethics, and communication as a couple?
- What are both of you looking for from this experience?
- Would your partner be comfortable reading this conversation?
If someone jumps straight into sexting before they're willing to answer these questions, that's a red flag for me. If I ask them to slow down and they go right back to sexting instead of discussing boundaries, ethics, and consent, I end the conversation. We all know theres a lot men here who send unsolicited pics of their wives and trying to live a fantasy.
And one last thing for the guys...
Please don't send unsolicited explicit photos. Even if someone asks for one early in the conversation, slow things down first and make sure you're actually talking to a real person. A little patience can save you from getting catfished, scammed, or having your photos misused.
There are real people here looking to make genuine connections. Put effort into your post, be respectful, stay safe, and don't get discouraged by the bots.