I have reached the point where I can rip off the band aid of a friendship. This friendship has or always has been crazy toxic friendship between me and the two other people and it’s time for me to move on from always feeling like trash and being treated like trash.

For some context, I’ve known these two people since my first year of college. They will be referred as Liz and Jerremy. Initially, we were part of a large group of friends who met at a club. However, over time, our group has dwindled down to just me, Liz, and Jerremy.

I’ve decided to end this friendship because of the way Liz has been treating me, particularly her constant bullying towards me.

Liz’s emotions are always on high alert, and she believes that only her feelings matter. In contrast, Jerremy is shy and reserved. Me well I’m the friend who seems to mess up all the time in Liz’s eyes. For, some reason, Liz doesn’t tell me what I did or said to her that made her upset until maybe a couple weeks past or a few months and then her and Jerremy have this sort of “intervention” to confront me about how my actions or what I said, offended her. Which leads to me saying I’m sorry, but if I bring up anything that Liz did or what Jerremy did it’s thrown aside and nothing changes unlike how I need to change when I’m confronted.

When Liz is having a crisis I’m there listening or comforting her but she doesn’t do the same for me nor does Jerremy. Before I can vent I get cut off or after she helps me she talks trash about my break down the day after. So I stopped talking about what’s happening in my life that’s bringing me down.

What finally broke the camels back was that I brought up someone that Liz didn’t like and I did apologize for bringing up that person because I am trained at this point to apologize for everything. Since then no one in the group chat has responded to any of my text messages.
(Side note the reason why Liz doesn’t like this person is because that person didn’t agree with Liz on a topic, which started them both talking trash about each other)

So now I am going to end this toxic friendship and focus on the people who actually care about me.

I’ve been spending a lot of time analyzing how certain threads reach the top of the popular feed so quickly. It often feels like the numbers don't add up, especially when a post hits 1k points in under twenty minutes without any real discussion in the comments. I started researching how this happens and found several discussions where people claim that marketing groups buy reddit upvotes to manipulate the front page. It’s a bit discouraging to think that organic content might be getting buried by paid visibility. I'm genuinely curious if this is a widespread tactic or just a rare occurrence that I happen to be noticing more often lately.

Has anyone here actually looked into this or seen proof of it happening in real time? I’m trying to understand the impact of buying reddit upvotes on the overall health of subreddits and whether the admins have effective ways to filter out this inorganic growth. It seems like a massive hurdle for smaller communities trying to gain traction when they are competing against boosted content. I’d love to hear your thoughts or any data points you’ve gathered on how common this practice really is.

I’m losing my mind a bit here. I keep hearing big streamers talk about how “everyone is viewbotting on Twitch” and it just makes the whole thing feel kind of corrupt, like Twitch knows it’s happening but can’t really stop it. Meanwhile, I’m over here trying to grow the normal way.

I’m not a big streamer by any means. I mostly go live and do desktop streams, Q&As, and chill streams. But organic growth can only get you so far, and lately it feels like I’ve completely hit a wall. I started researching Twitch view bot services just to understand how streamers are doing this, but everything I find either looks way too sketchy or way too extreme for what I’d even need. And yeah, I keep seeing warnings that using viewer bots can get you banned instantly, so now I’m torn.

I don’t know if I should avoid that entirely and just grow organically instead. All the Twitch viewer bots look identical and super suspicious, and I honestly don’t know what’s real or what’s safe anymore.

If anyone has insight into how people actually push visibility on Twitch (without blowing up your account), or if there are real alternatives, please help. I’m seriously at the end of my rope with organic growth.

ive been on medication, had therapy and have coping mechanisms, but i dont know if ill ever truly get better.

I am a student living in Europe, and I left Algeria almost two years ago. Being the oldest sibling, I always felt responsible for my brothers. Back when I was home, my younger brother listened to me because I pushed him in a good way. I wanted him to study, stay away from the wrong crowd, and believe in himself. Now I work and study at the same time. I pay for my own tuition and rent, try to save what I can, and help my family whenever possible.

But ever since I left, everything in my family has fallen apart. My father has become completely unstable. He does provide financially (with his minimum wage salary), and on top of that, he has started drinking constantly. He cannot even afford this habit, yet he keeps doing it. One time he asked me for money, telling me it was for something important. Later I learned he used it to pay off drinking debts. That absolutely broke me...

Every time I call my mother, she looks exhausted. She tells me about how my younger brother is misbehaving and getting into trouble at school. She is always the one dealing with the consequences while my dad acts like he does not care at all. Watching her cry through a screen, knowing I am thousands of kilometers away and unable to help, feels like being stabbed in the heart. She is a hardworking woman who has always fought for her children’s future, and now she is carrying everything alone.

I tried talking to my my dad... I tried confronting him about his drinking and about taking responsibility for his own son. But he is not someone who accepts advice from me. He sees any attempt to guide him as disrespect, as if reminding him to be a father is an insult. He once promised he would stop drinking, and that promise only came after I had a complete breakdown in front of him when I visited home 2 months ago. Despite all that nothing has changed. He still drinks whenever he gets angry, usually after my mother asks him to simply step up and be present.

I feel completely lost. This situation is eating me from the inside. I am losing focus at work and in my studies, even though this is supposed to be my final year of university. There are moments when I seriously consider dropping everything I have worked for here just to go back home and try to stabilize my family, even if it means sacrificing my own future.

I do not know what to do anymore.

For some context I (22) graduated from college last month and I have been living back home with my family since then. It's becoming increasingly similar to how my life was before I went to college. I am being treated like an failing adult by my parents. My parents are nagging me about how I am acting like how I was in high school not reaching my potential or being an functioning adult but I don't see that at all. I understand that I need to step up and start doing my part in the house but whatever I do isn't enough. My parents have asked me to clean up after myself (done that even cleaned up after my brother and them), putting away my lunch when I come back from work before I relax, taken down the laundry, cleaned around the house, doing laundry and cleaning the dishes, etc. But unless my parents see me doing anything of that sort of stuff it's not enough or I get nagged for not doing more responsible. Another thing is my emotions are now being treated as less than my little brother's feelings, (he's basically the golden child but when I was up in college he lost that title because he was being absolutely ridiculous) if my brother is sad or angry about something he's treated like he's going to break but when I am sad or angry I get laughed at or told that I am overreacting. Along with that because my brother doesn't communicate with me like a normal person he defaults to doing everything in his power to annoy me nonstop and when I ask him to stop or ask one of my parents to tell him to stop nothing happens other than him continuing to annoy me or my parents telling me to not react to him. But that's kind of difficult to do when shoving something in my face or twerking in my face or etc. He only gets disciplined when whatever he's doing affects my parents. All this on top of other stuff is making me consider leaving my house and finding a cheap apartment to live in that's either close to my work and or close to a graduate college where I can get my masters degree after this gap year.

i hate other people and how i have to put them first, like i could not gaf about you or your new born baby im gonna sit where i want on the train

or when people say “always leave something for someone else” while thrifting, like no. if i like it, im gonna buy it

it might js be that i’m a narcissist but i hate it when other people think i should put anyone before myself, especially when strangers think i should put them in front of myself. i dgaf about u or your new born, you and your ugly arse self, you and your intitled self

yh but love u 😘

i just got recently broken up with my ldr bf who i thought i was gonna marry na, i can tell he’s moved on na agad because he is far away and have other things to do, while me on the other hand doesn’t because i was recently diagnosed with bipolar 2 and is currently taking a gap sem. 10 days na ko gumigisibg n masakit and puso and my distractions are getting hard core but it still doesn’t seem to work ☹️

My wife straight up said she couldn't understand my feelings of resentment from being invalidated when we make decisions. That my feelings didn't need to be discussed since the decision will be the same in the end. It was followed by a talk about her feelings and how she feels burdened that I have no one else but her to talk about how I feel. I guess it was a mistake to be vulnerable and bring up the things I keep from other people to the person I'm supposed to be the closest to. Sucks for me I guess.

TLDR: feel backstabbed and used by an ex fwb. It's been months and sometimes I still don't know how to deal with the pain.

Hi, so as the title states it doesn't get much blunt than that.

Had a few hookups with a friend - we were friends for 1 year to 2 years - before I went to visit him for his birthday (mind you, we live in different cities, and for me to get to see him it takes around 5 hours on a bus). Since then, we started hooking up like a couple of times. However he got weird with me for being too "touchy and cuddly" - I also suspect I'm neurodivergent, so nothing new to me, i tend to be more intense and act like it. I admit I didn't reacted the best way when he approached the subject- however I stated ( which is true ) that I tend to be more touchy and cuddly than your average non serious situationship/hookup. I also at the time, felt like he compared our situation and me to his ex (that cheated on him) so I kinda reacted bad. I didn't call him names or nothing like verbal abuse, but looking back I was on the passive agressive side - eg. " Why you're comparing me to your ex, when our thing is nothing alike and I told you I'm more touchy but that doesn't mean I want to date you"- type of thing.

During those hookups, we used to sext when we didn't see each other, and since we had the conversation of ' i don't want anything serious" the sexting halted downt to 0, and we were no longer traveling to see/fuck each other.

Now this is where the twist comes: we started hooking up around a week and a half, after his birthday (January), and he did mention that he thought his tattoo artist, was a really cool person and stuff. I got a feel at the time, that he might be into her but didn't said shit. And I was really happy for him if he had a thing for her btw. Since the Convo of "I don't want anything serious" and him not understanding how I am, I've cut all contact with him. Considering how he ghosted me, after Ive told him he could put a stop to our hookups ( which I asked bluntly if he was still interested in me -to which he said yes). I also asked him not to lie to me or make me feel used - he did the opposite and decided to not tell me shit and ghosting me.

All because he started dating the tattoo artist, that he thought was a cool person and shit. The one I had a feel he might be into lmao. I came to find out they started dating by accident lmao.

When he told me he wanted to keep me in his life as a good friend ( we both thought the same) and he wouldn't disappoint me like that. I feel betrayed because part of me is hurt and wants nothing more for him to get hurt the same way he hurt me. (Not telling the truth, when he knew I'd be fine with it, since we didn't want nothing serious). But also I can't help but to feel heartbroken, because I'd love to see him happy dating someone else and I'd love to be in his life still. However I feel like he gave me no choice by removing himself out of my life by backstabbing me, so I can't really be happy for him dating someone new, like I was in the past.

It's been months and still I have some heavy mental breakdowns over this, because I really cared for him as a friend and I have a really hard time expressing wants and needs. And when I did towards him, he backstabbed me like almost 90% of people I've met. So, I'm still grieving I guess..

Any advice? I'd appreciate it Thanks!

19M here, in the military. Recently, I got the wonderful opportunity to be a part of a ‘competition’ like thing where you test out for a badge (E3B). I trained really hard for it, and worked hard to get the opportunity as well. I unfortunately was dropped for training today because I had some really bad luck with day land navigation. It’s the kind of experience that I’m not even sure I can learn anything from and it just sucks. I know I’m going back for it again asap, but it sucks. I trained really, really hard for this. Just to get terrible luck. Sometimes life throws you curveballs but this one really hurt. I focused on it really hard and put time aside specifically for the event. I just feel like I failed my leadership and I want to prove that I can do it still. I’m asking for other schools now to see if they will send me; but I don’t know how likely it is that it will happen. Just came here to vent. Needed to get it off my chest, hence the subreddit.

I (24) M have been with my (23) F wife for about two years now and everything was going pretty good in our marriage until recently. When I came home from my deployment in the navy, we were engaging in the act and in the middle of it, she said that she was wanting to try a threesome with another guy. We have always had our sex life any more privatized way when we first got together we each each other that we wanted it to not have and we cleared the air about wanting to share each other with other people and we are at the same page then but she recently came up and was saying how she wanted to try it with another man. I love my wife, and I don’t know if I should grant her sexual desires one time because she said she only wanted to try it once but I have a feeling and I’m afraid that’s just gonna leave it open where she’s gonna continue asking for it later down the line all it feels like is it she wants a free pass to sleep with somebody else but she says that she wants to just try DP once with me and somebody else I don’t know what to do. I love her, but I feel like once I open it and allow it once that it will never be closed and I’ll always hear about it.

Social media is actually disgusting, they always have opinions about others, I'm sorry that I was so in disbelief that I couldn't believe it I always check like I'm saying "wait actually? Did you get help" and next thing I know I get hate comments asking if I'm stupid or why I asked that maybe I am confused maybe because of my hand injury I'm slightly dummer what if that was my last straw? What if I actually killed myself because of that? I already had got a lot of hate for voicing my opinion but I'm getting hate just because I asked a question? I'm sorry but you don't even know me and wanna send hate my way for what? You only dislike it because you saw other people dislike it, people are such hates to blend in with the crowd like what's the point? Just don't reply to me there's really nothing you should do and the fact I'm kinda young is weird because no matter what age you are GROWN ADULTS would hate on you that's how immature people are but I decided to just ignore it as people still decide to reply to me which is weird, they are really just obsessed!

I, a 20-year-old woman, have been friends with my online friends since 2018 or before the pandemic started. We meet at an app called Amino on a community group for singing. It was my first time going to the app, and growing up, I was very shy, anxious, and not very good with new people, and I am very introverted. Up until you get to know me better, I will get goblin mode.    Anyway, going to the app, I was very nervous and excited to meet new people outside and inside of my country. I was joining random group chat to chat and sing to people but never had the chance to sing to them, up until I joined a particular group chat where the people who were joining were already friends and such.   I was a bit nervous and anxious to join the call, because I never sing to anyone outside of my family and friend group, but reluctantly I joined. I stayed on the call, muted and listening to other people singing. There is a list of people who want to sing and show off their talents; it's an open group chat to do what you love.   As people come in and out of the chat, listening or singing, I was just listening to them; I was chatting in the chat box but not speaking, but eventually, I put my name on the list to sing. I sing nervously and muted after I sing, and they complement my singing, and I feel flattered.   It was the first time that someone complimented my singing. But when they started to talk to me, that's when I became more nervous. Growing up, my family "jokingly" insulted my weight and how I was skinny when I was little, and now that I'm an adult, I gain weight, and that fucked my mentality about my weight and how I looked at myself.   Anyway, when they start to chat with me, I hide my identity; I say that I'm a man, older than them, but I sing on a female octave note. But that's when I started to regret it.   Fast forward: when the pandemic happens, we still keep in touch with each other, whether it's on Discord or Amino. When the pandemic hit, we became more active and more closed than ever before.   There are two friends that I became closer to than the others; they are both Filipino, and our humor is insane. Anyway, one of them is my best friend; we both call each other at night, telling stories and gossip, the usual friend stuff.   Fast forward to when I entered college; I lost touch with them. I am still friends with them at Discord but not actively playing with them. I still chat with them every now and then, but the impact of our friendship is slowly fading.   That's when I thought that I needed to come clean to them. I told each of my friends privately that I'm a girl. I told them my situation on why I lied to them about my identity; they were surprised, but not the surprise that I expected. I expected them to be angry and upset that they lied, but no.   They are cool with it that I come clean to them, except for my two best friends. When I was about to chat with them, one of them blocked me on Discord, our only communication with each other. I really want to apologize to her, but it's too late.   And since when I came out, their attitude and action became cold; I can feel on their messages that they saw me as a stranger. I really messed up my opportunity to come out to them back then, but it's too late. What should I do?   

Okay, hopefully this posts. I met this guy online. I am 19 years old and he's also 19. We met on a game and started talking. It's been a week now, and I don't know why, but is it normal for him to say "I love you" and want to meet somewhere this month? I find that crazy because I don't want to meet him. I feel that online dating is weird. I have never liked online dating; I only like to talk to people on there and make friends. This guy is nice and everything, but I don’t want to be anything romantically involved with him. I told him that and explained that I don't want to be anything romantically involved because of how messed up my life is right now, but honestly, it's more than that. I don't want to date online. I think it’s weird. He asked if it was okay for him to still flirt, and I said yes it was okay. I feel like I’m leading him on. He said he loved me, but I don't love him like that. I think he loves the idea of me and maybe just wants to be physical. I don't want to. If anything, I think it’s just lust that I feel for him, nothing else. I just want to be friends. I have never done a face reveal or anything like that, and he's saying he loves me? I find that insane. Also, we're kind of low-key sexting. After that, I just realized I was kind of leading him on. I don't know what to do. He seems like a nice, genuine guy, but I don't want to date online. maybe just be friends? Idk I'm scared of relationships NEVER trust men.

I am a University student. I left home to pursue my education.... actually it was because I had no purpose back at home. I've spent the past 4 summers completely isolated from everyone, I know a lot of people will say that's on me, and I agree. I never really went out of my way to go out and socialize, I really only go out when running errands or when I just don't want to be indoors. I'm from a rural community, so you can imagine that everyone knows each other, so meeting new people isn't part of my common routine. All that mattered to me was that I was close to my family, but now that I left home to attend Uni, I feel very lonely. I have trouble meeting new people and honestly I prefer not to meet or make new friends, because in the end, I'd just ghost them as usual. The walk to and from campus are actually what I enjoy most about my days, warm weather, uncrowded paths (most people take the bus), beautiful lakes, etc. But something that I have determined so far is that I really hate the weekends, it's like I have no option but to wait it out. Now I could just go to campus and walk around but there's usually a lot of drunks around and I generally avoid them as I've had a bad experience with alcohol in the past. I could get a job but it was so horrible for my mental health when I last worked. I can't seem to find hobbies as I quickly lose interest. I've been called a fake "gamer" by my family, and a few childhood friends back at home. I don't have any family members out here, my parents are a lost cause, (father had a hockey injury and suffered amnesia, mother shortly abandoned the family after the incident). I did come out with my girlfriend, thankfully, but she doesn't have the social problems like I do, in fact, her friends are actually here in the city where our University is located, as well as some of her family members, so to call her very busy during the weekends would be an understatement, I am glad that she's out and about with friends and family, but I can't help but feel envious of her outgoing personality, makes me wonder why she chose a loser loner like me. The only thing I can do is feel sorry for myself.

Edit: there's a LOT more to be said but that information is very personal

She was a girl that seemed diferent than all the other girls, I liked her because she was shy, didn't like any stuff that the girls at school liked (vaping and shi...). Best part was she was considered the ugly girl, tho to me she was really atractive, so i really wanted to meet her, but out of fear of my classmates making fun of me for talking to her, which had happened countless times, I never did, and even when I got a good moment to talk to her, I would end up saying hi and walking away akwardly cuz I was too damm nervous. Now this year she transfered schools to a city 15 minutes on car away from my school, I haven't texted her on instagram for 6 months and idk what to do. I'd grateful for some advice on what to do

I don't know who's gonna bother reading this but if you do. I hope to god that I can't be the only one who feels like this or something similar to it... I would appreciate some advice or help with this please I'm just struggling to cope with these thoughts, but at this point I don't even know anymore as its just getting more and more difficult. This will be a lengthy rant but if you do read the entire way through, it is much appreciated. If you don't that fine.

Waiting / Saving Yourself for Marriage

oh wow a boring practice to even consider in this generation... pffft who does that anymore like bro Nobody is waiting just to have sex until marriage that's lame good luck finding a woman or a man that even follows that in this modern day and age blah blah blah...

But man like.. what's so wrong about saving yourself until marriage? I personally believe that this is a beautiful thing to have especially if both parties are purely and intentionally trying to save / wait until marriage, but it isn't just sex that people keep making it out to be. There is a lot more than just that. The majority of people in this generation especially in the gen-z or early 20's or high school / college age groups today are so seduced or influenced to the idea and practice losing your virginity like its a race or something. like wtf? hello? I just don't get it. People just rush and just easily give up their bodies with one another (with many different multiple partners even) then complain why they feel so miserable and alone... I don't know man... majority of my peers if not all my peers and friends from high school and after are definitely not saving or waiting until marriage. Its always just casual sex & hook ups etc. Now here is the part that makes me feel hopeless... what is even the point anymore in this modern day and age / generation where it just feels like nobody is saving themselves or waiting until marriage. (I'm still confused about the born again virgin thing I don't know what that exactly is I heard about it but it didn't make sense to me, again not to shame anyone, but just for clarity) I get that you can find someone from your culture or community, churches, mosques etc. But from what I keep hearing unfortunately even if you do go for these places it feels like that no matter what you have that gut feeling or instinct or maybe over-thinking or even hell, if you told or ask that person about it and they tell you whether its the truth or a lie you can really never know, but you just can't help yourself but think that this person has been with someone or everyone or many other people before you. That gut wrenching feeling that you just cant do anything about and I think its also called retro jealousy or something like that, please let me know if that's the word or something else and No this isn't to slam or shame anyone who had been with someone before. It only becomes shameful when you start to enforce and encourage others to do what you do and pretend like there is no consequence and pretend like its okay to be promiscuous for others to act on, encouraging bad behaviours to influence your friends and peers to experience the same guilt you are feeling is not responsible its just completely wrong (hope that makes sense). Yes, you can still build meaningful relationships after having a bad experience with somebody that you purposely wanted to have a genuine connection with. You are human, you experience regret, shame, guilt etc, but your intentions matter so even if it didn't work out, you can learn from it with pure intentions. But I don't understand when after a break up regardless if its a guy or a girl. The next thing they do, instead of I'm going to heal and learn from this so that my next relationship (not a rebound or anything like it) will be better than the previous relationship. It ends up being yeah I'm just gonna sleep around to get back at my ex or might as well get wasted and drunk to get rid of this bad feeling and makeout with a bunch of guys or girls. As if this fixes anything. But the point is that it feels like nobody cares about actually wanting to practice saving themselves for marriage for their potential spouse regardless of religious or non-religious reasons, everyone is cheating or being cheated on by their partners, having back-ups, jumping from one person to another, hook ups and high body counts of who has the highest score or something like wtf?... and more if not worse. It just doesn't stop, it never ends this charade. I don't get that at all, lets say you do wait for marriage. I have seen posts where people are commenting those who actually did wait just get shamed for it. like wtf? if you want to wait until marriage and / or if you are a virgin you get shamed for it whether male or female but for different reasons for both (which is also why I am terrified to be open and have deep conversations with people or my friends or anyone in my life about these kinds of topic as they are sensitive and deep so I somehow ended up here) But, please tell me I can't be alone feeling or thinking the same thing if not at least similar to this. Are there anyone else actually trying practice waiting until marriage for their partner? Are you still hoping on to the fact that you will find somebody that will share the same intent? Is it even worth the trouble? How do you resolve these sorts of issues and clear these thoughts but you also have to face reality? Is there a decline / decrease in the number of people wanting to wait? I don't know the stats please inform me as I am ignorant to the data as I am only trying to express a point and seeking knowledge about this topic. Correct me if I am wrong about any of it, that's fine. I am happy to discuss about it. I just want to hope that there's at least some or a fraction of hope to linger onto abit longer. I just feel like its pointless and there is no point to it if nobody cares or wants it, because its old school or that's too long or what if the sex is bad because he or she is inexperienced, what if this what if that? Like everything is so hypersexualised and No, sex is not a bad thing its a great thing and its suppose to be and it should be but its just treated like its nothing, it should mean something to you and your partner not like trash or something. But I don't know man... But basing your relationship solely on sex alone isn't a meaningful relationship. Your just I don't know getting to explore and know each other for their bodies than something else more like interests, personalities, likes, dislikes, ambitions, flaws, experiences, family and so on but... I don't know man... it just seems like a hook up to me.

Hoop Up Culture

Another thing is, does anyone else just get tired of hearing stupid shit like (maybe I'm exaggerating here but you get the gist of it) yo bro I'm going to smash this hot chick at the club... or I'm gonna sleep with his best friend for fun \laughs in a satanic manner** or omg he or she so hot like I'm only just gonna hook up with him or her for fun etc. Like dam man... what is so wrong with wanting a meaningful relationship with your partner. it just doesn't make sense to me how you can just have as much casual sex and hook ups and then stop and be like oh now I think I'm ready or should get into a relationship and start a family or something. I get that people can do whatever you want and all but understand that every choice one makes, every decision you make either has a positive or negative consequences that affect you or your relationships around you. One cannot go through life and think to themselves you cant tell me what to do I can do whatever I want its my life. Yes my friend, but don't ruin your life with all this meaningless activities and actions you engage / commit to yourself in where if you know deep down that its affecting you negatively. The spread of hook up culture has grown rapidly and sadly has taken over in many peoples lives. Social media being a big factor here when you can have so much options and back ups, which to me sounds sad really. I don't mean to sound all pessimistic and all but is it so wrong to have this talked about? Is it wrong to want something real in a relationship? To be loved? to have something genuine and to mean something without this drama? Does anyone get what I mean by this, please let me know and for gods sake without having to be like oh bro you don't know anything, L plus you can't get laid I bet you get no bitches. Like c'mon man lets have a conversation about this stuff. Its not so wrong to have a discussion about it. I just feel like every day on social media whether it be Instagram and tiktok, I see 5-10% happy, genuine, in-love couples together, enjoying their time together then the remaining percentage is a post about someone getting cheated on or someone is cheating on their partner. Half the audiences defend the cheater and the other half doesn't. Someone who brought flowers for their date but ends up getting ghosted, situationships? (are you in love or in a relationship with your situation or something? I don't understand that part exactly I keep hearing these definitions but it just confuses me but I get the idea of it sort of) Someone finds out in a their partner has a high body count and cheats before wedding or something, you are not the father of this child or something, sleeping with the guy best friend or yo bro she's busy right now text and screenshots. The list is just endless man like holy... Like I can't be the only one fed up with this please. I'm interested to see what your thoughts are. I just want to know that hopefully if there's anyone who feels like this or share something similar like this I just... can't be the only one. it just seems crazy to me man.

Appreciate you if you've read this far. I'm not good with reddit and social media and stuff. I was never fond it but just trying it out. Cheers.

This happened about a year ago. I meet with a friend and I felt like they were trying to come on to me and shifted away trying to add some distance between us and but it didn't helped, and they practically launched themselves at me and kissed me. I didn't do anything and more than that happened that day. I want to be clear I feel I am also in the wrong in this situation cause I continued to meet them and allow this to continue longer than it should have I just wanted to feel like I had control over what was happening. I was not in a good place myself and didn't want to accept what happened that first night and that this is something happening with someone i saw as a friend. They were not well mentally and even stopped taking their medication at that time and I became fearful that they would harm themselves if I ended it, they have never had a good reaction when their past relationships ended I have witnessed this first hand. I will not go into details with everything that happened between us but in a way I suppose it was basically a fling or fwb situation, just know I literally cannot think about any of it without feeling nauseous. I went along with it for couple of months, Eventually I found an easy way out and removed them from everything after they did something I had asked them several times not to. I erased them from my life but I can't not erase the disgusting feeling they left in me. I fear there is no amount of water on this planet that can cleanse me from them. And I hate myself for letting it happen. I don't really have anyone to tell this to and I need to get it out. Thank you.

idk if it’s just me or teenage hormones but i know there’s something wrong with me both physically and mentally.

i know i have scoliosis and some type of personality disorder but i feel like im making it all up in my head for attention or something

doctor don’t diagnosed teens very often, especially teen girls because we’re good at “masking”. i feel like i’m going crazy, my problems are: -i don’t grieve like other people grieve (i honestly couldn’t give a fck) -i don’t have much empathy (i know i should feel guilty/sad when reading about slaves, child labour, etc but i honestly don’t really care except if it’s for something that is happening to me. but sometimes i do “feel it” ig) -i have crazy mood swings (one minute i’ll be on top of the world, next i will want to jump off of a building and end it all, then i’ll get so angry at someone THEN apologise cuz i know i have too) -i get all fcking sad for no exact reason -im always in pain (most likely scoliosis but doctors don’t care)

like what is wrong with me?? is it just normal teen hormones or am i going crazy??????

i fucking hate doctors

i am 14f btw

(Most likely won't be using punctuation a lot) Everyday for my life ever since I was 7 years old I had to deal with family,friends,relationships and etc, I'm just tired I just want a month or a life where I was never here cause it seems like to me that I just brought bad luck to my family I got the police called on me, I had to go to therapy for half of my life and I just got back into it, I got sa(t*uched not 🍇 and cat called), I got bullied, I got exposed, everything is not going right for me but like they say "life is hard" yes it's hard very hard I developed anxiety and social anxiety, I developed depression I probably have ADHD and bpd I don't know I won't self-diagnose but I think I have the symptoms. I'm tired I don't wanna be selfish and say everything isn't going my way because we don't always get everything we want but still it's not fair if something little good happen to me something bad immediately happens that's my punishment it's unfair what did I do to deserve this? Oh I know this is my punishment for being a selfish brat as a child and still am I'm trying to change I promise it's just hard after dealing with so much I felt like giving up, 2020 I went to the mental hospital for cutting and having a full plan on how I was gonna die and everyday I said I will do it but I get scared because I felt like it was selfish of me to do so and how it would affect my family but it's because of them, especially my parents gosh I want them to not hate each other for a day I want to have a dream family where they were married and together and I could have the brother I want but it's okay I love my siblings too which half of them I never even met yet I have a sister who tried to kill me and who is dealing with worst than me but I'm the oldest so everything always come to me getting blamed and stuff I literally got called a demon because after seeing my sister she ends up acting like me it wasn't fair everyone became homophobic because I'm nonbinary and pansexual(becoming asexual because what's the point) and she was genderfluid and bisexual and so they hated us I gave her courage to come out but all they did was yell at her and I wanted to do something but I was scared everyday every little thing I always get into arguments with my mom since I lived with her my whole life I been lied to by my parents and i can never get along with her, every time we are happy and smiling we end up arguing after she was about to take my door off because I lock my door because I like to be left alone but she can't because it's the complex property and she can probably go to jail for that, so as a child I used to watch a lot of stuff gacha and everything and I end up giving myself a phobia I do y think it's all that bad but it's half and half it's not like spiders or anything it's where like how you have a fart from the behind it's from the mouth I don't like saying the word or even seeing anything it makes me so sad, mad and scared and she knowsandu yk with that phobia it also means gagging noises and stuff why do she always do the gag thing and when I ask her to stop she thinks sorry is gonna fix it it's not it makes me cry I always said if you do it I either get mad, sad or punch you/fight you those are myrresponses or maybe all three I'm tired and that's the only phobia but I'm still sensitive to things but after all the gore and stuff I saw it doesn't matter but animals I hate seeing anything happen to animals even small dangerous insects who are invasive I still hate it but I understand why it just makes me sad anyways I'm getting of track sorry but anything I do I can never make her proud, heading her say she loves me and she's proud of me makes me disgusted and I told my therapist about it(I don't like going) and he said that means I'm probably not used to it it's weird I want people to be nice to me but I also hate it it's very weird and I started to slowly lose all my friends but there's this one guy who I grew up with we known each other for 4 years and since this is October close to ending 5 years and the thing is he's also my ex and a lot and I still like him but I will never tell him we've been together and broke up so many times he admitted that he's tired of it so ima just keep my likeness to myself but I'm also starting to slowly lose feels for him maybe it's better for us to be best friends but he made me feel happy he truely was the only one who could understand me? It's weird we went through the same things it's like okay my mom is sometimes physical abusive but mostly emotionally, verbally and mentally abusive and I say that all 4 of them are the same and have the same effect so he was dealing with the same things too and he was also suicidal too but he never went to a mentalhospitala so you can probably see how I'm do attached to him and don't wanna lose him he made me feel love and everything he made me feel like I could belong there he actually made me smile he made me laugh but again I always smiled and laughed to hide my sadness but he ACTUALLY brought out my happiness and I was always grateful for him as much as I wish to stay with him and marry him and much more I'm not going for him because relationships changed me I thought I found my ones but they ended up cheating or breaking up with me and I ended up being toxic myself and I ruined my relationships so I'm staying single for a long time I just have a lot feelings and I don't wanna talk to nobody about it I'm tired I always get in trouble for something because I'm youngerthan most family members I started to really like skulls and skeletons so I think that's also deal with me thinking I might be obsessed with death my dad was lying to me my whole life and everything and my mom is just straight up mean and I don't know why nobody does and she's the oldest but I don't know why she's so mean and shitty my family says that they all had a great childhood (she's has siblings) so they don't know why she's acting like this and she takes out her anger out on me and I always wanted to call the police on her but I need her, I love herabut I also hate her and wish things upon her but that might come back to haunt me it's so hard I'm tires of school I'm tired of my life I just want to sleep forever you know? I just want there to be a day where I'm in bed with no interruptions but I want a life where I'm with him married and peaceful with him with multiple pets in a big house and that we are so rich we don't have to work anymore andswe ate just laying in bed together holding hands watching ashowg kissing each other sometimes, but I guess dreams won't come true.

My Mother has stage 4 ovarian cancer. My sister and I have been driving her hours each week/weeks/month to treatment for the past 4.5 years. There will be no cure and while she is managing the illness it will eventually be the thing that kills her. We have and have always had a strained relationship. She has borderline personality disorder and can ve a very difficult person. Between anxiety and verbal abuse it's been a difficult journey. We are in a better place since her diagnosis but I wonder if that's just because she's alienated everyone else she's ever been close to. I have found myself lately wondering if she would ever just stop treatment. Her life is really limited in that she's essentially a hermit. I can't help but feel like she's buying more time without having a purpose for it. And before any of you go there, no there's no looming inheritance, she lives in a home that we provide for her. I guess I'm just tired and waiting for things to improve, because they will only get worse as has been proven year over year for almost 5 years. It's like watching a slow moving train approaching a cliff, only you don't know where that is, you just know it's not that far away. And it doesn't help that she treats strangers so well but is a real ass hole to us. I'm also feeling spiteful for the lack of help from literally everyone. People ask me how she is but never offer to lift a finger to help me help her. Cancer is a treacherous road. Based on this experience if I'm ever diagnosed I will not put my partner through this. I'll just let it consume me and check t f out. And then also secretly I know that in my old age I'll be left to fend for myself because I have no children. So all this b s pay it forward shit stops with me. I guess I pulled the short straw.

I don’t know how I feel yet. I’m in Florida and in the middle of a hurricane. He has been acting weird for days and eventually ignoring me. Today I texted to him “why are you ignoring me?” I got no response. I called him multiple times. He simply texted that he wants to be alone. I figured the end was close, but I had hope. We agreed on letting the past go and working on ourselves. And I meant it. In a way I’m thankful. He made it easy for me. I’ve thought in the back of my mind that I should have left him since 2022. But for some reason, I could never bring myself to. I kinda feel like it’s unfair. This is very random on his end. I know he’s had mental issues for a while but I don’t feel like that is a reason to end things with someone. Especially since we’ve been together over 2 years, what happens when you’re married and have mental issues? You just divorce each time you’re going through something? I wanted to go through that with him, I wanted to be there for him. I’m not crying or upset yet. I don’t even know how to respond. I mean, a text message? Really? I’m alone now. Everyone has left me. Everyone. I have no friends in my town, now my “best friend” has just broken up with me over text. I know I’m going to lose it soon. Especially on my long drives home from school, or when I have gossip to spill. I’m gonna miss calling him on those drives and just talking to my “best friend.” Thanks for listening if you made it this far 🤍

I was modding for a TikTok live stream for the past few days by a celebrity who managed a popular rapper during her come up era. The celebrity is doing auditions on tiktok live for her new season of a show that’s supposed to be on peacock. The celebrity kept getting porn bots in their live and i asked if i can be a mod to help with the porn bots. Behold, basic mod privileges were granted and a follow back. So i was blocking and muting the porn bots and promoting the hashtag for the show. Mind you this celebrity kept asking people to use the hashtag to make a audition video if they don’t make it onto the livestream panel. When I tell you. I was shocked when she said my username and told me she was going to block me because i wasn’t listening and pinning comments to the chat. Mind you i didn’t pin anything in the comment section. Her other mod did. She then proceeded to say im trying to get followers on tiktok. However my page is private and has been private for years. I major in cybersecurity so im cautious of having a public account and also my life experience( story for a different day). So i @ the celebrity in the live and told her whoever on your team made me a mod and that my page is private. Honestly i was so mad because i genuinely don’t care about followers. And for the celebrity to say that to me was wild. Granted she is a older woman and likely does understand tiktok, but I was so upset because honestly it wasn’t called for. I rather she blocked me than to say that because it wasn’t true and it was atleast 1000 + viewers. Granted yes, over 100+ people tried to request to follow me however i didn’t accept it. Because for one I’m not affiliated with the celebrity or the network. And two I’m just a girl with free time and quite frankly was genuinely trying to help. If you are on TikTok you know those porn bots can get your live taken down. I wasn’t pretending to be affiliated either. I never told anyone to dm me or anything. I even rejected dm requests because again I’m not affiliated.

He like totally won’t even let her have a relationship. My mom had a fiancé and he left for a number of reasons, one of which was probably my brother(18). All he does is talk about how anxious he is about his future, money, passion for the second amendment, how much he hates himself, how much he hates other people, anxiety about school, and subtle threats of wanting to kill himself. He’s been like this for several years and almost every night he goes on and on about the things I mentioned. He has no sense of reason, and rationality that me or my mom offer goes in one ear and out the other. I think it’s because he’s on the autism spectrum and has adhd among other issues. I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t plan on going to college and he wants to join the military, but I doubt he can even do that for a few reasons. For one, he has terrible social skills. He once complained on the phone with my mom for hours because he didn’t know how to address a problem with his job at Chick fil A, so how can I expect him to get a job fr? I may be younger than him but I have a much stronger sense of awareness and emotional intelligence, but I’m not so sure about my mom. She does her best and is an amazing person but I just don’t think she’s got the mental capacity to deal with it for as long as she’s been dealing with it. She also has minor attachment issues and insecurity thanks to her mom and dad’s parenting techniques and her ex husband of almost 17 years, my dad. So for those reasons we’ve just been living with my brother who constantly torments her and makes me listen to it. I love him and have a healthy relationship with him otherwise, we watch anime together and have casual debates, relate to each other, play with our cats, etc but it’s shadowed by his abuse. As much as I hate saying it, I’m praying he leaves the house or joins the military as soon as he’s out of high school, and so is my mom. That or he gets better, but I don’t know. I’m just really worried about him and my mom and I feel so incredibly powerless. All I can do is make both of them smile and keep them in their happy places whenever I can. Thanks for letting me vent, idrk what I expect anyone to say but thank you for any responses anyway lol

TLDR: brother is abusing mom for years, nothing I can do about it.