I don't really understand why some workplaces expect you to be available on your personal number like it's part of the job you start somewhere new and suddenly you're added to a group chat with 20 people you barely know, managers texting you after hours, coworkers asking questions on your days off, random calls about stuff that could've waited until Monday for sure. The last 3 months have been hell for me. Most of my team were replaced and I'm the most senior wmployee (not promoted though).

The new hires, managers and literally everyone texting me at the middle of the night or texting me their big ideas for the company 10PM on a Saturday., and the worst part is once everyone has your number, you can't exactly take it back.I'm not one to complain a lot but it got so bad I had to lie to my HR team that I changed my number and had to give them a cloaked number. If a company expects people to be reachable outside of work, shouldn't they be providing work phones or at least separate numbers or pay us overtime?

for context, i currently work minimum wage, 50+ hours a week with no overtime. i can’t keep up with my expenses and just keep digging myself deeper into a debt hole.

i just got offered a job that i have a lot of experience in, can give me a more stable work-life balance, and better income all around.

i want to do the right thing and put in my two weeks for my current employment, but im so stricken with money right now that id rather just start this new job as early as next week, because i know it will help me get back on my feet. i can actually start taking care of my bills correctly and paying off my debt.

do i jump ship and burn bridges with my current employment, or do i do things right and go through the last two weeks of hell. any advice?

Not sure if this is the right subreddit or flair but hopefully someone here understands the feeling.

I get it that maybe he wasn’t the best fit for the job, he was having some issues, and i have no idea what went down behind the scenes but this one hurts.

He was just so fun to have in the office - hilarious, good conversationalist, big people person, all around amazing guy, and he had this adorable bromance with another colleague that is just my favourite thing to witness.

I really like my job and my team. This one just hurts.

Anyone else had this happen?

Im a fresh nursing grad who's now on day 2 of a 10 week orientation in the ICU. Yesterday my mentor sent me to assist a doctor in putting a central line alone. He said he was gonna come later but took his sweet time. Patient had low dose Adrenaline running to combat Bradycardia and the pumps were beeping because it was almost empty. I turned the alarm off, not fully registering the urgency that we need new ones. I got that its empty and that i should refill, but apparently wasnt moving fast enough for the doctor/colleague. He then proceeded to yell at me saying i cant just turn a pump off, then stormed off and yelled through the whole station asking for new ones. I was very shocked and words just wouldnt come out.

He went on and reported the incident to my supervisor who did the "talk" with me about mistakes happening and that it wasnt that bad blah blah.

Why do i still feel debilitating fear to come work today? Im so scared that doctor is working as well, and i guess also coming from a lot of shame? Maybe i dont do well with making mistakes? I dont know whats wrong with me. I feel really rrally bad and so ashamed and i just want the ground to swallow me up.

I work in a production facility where they want all food consumption happening during our designated breaks and in the lunch room.. fair enough. My problem is that supervisors are constantly interrupting people during break, and not taking them aside but sitting down and talking about work, these are also not questions that can’t happen before or after break, how can this be addressed.

I work in tech as an implementation consultant. I’m
Working with a large client who is quite crucial to us and they are working with us for the first time. This client has gone back and forth about a couple of requirements throughout the initial discussions. One of the configurations in question is usually handled by the client tech admins but because this was a large client we did it for them. One day before go live, they mentioned to me that they did not need this configuration anymore. I acknowledged it and made the mistake of assuming that their tech admin would block those configurations. 4 days into the Go-Live the client reported that this config has resulted in issues with the way things were supposed to function on their end and it has downstream impacts on their reports. The reports decide the next steps for them so it is essential that these reports need to be accurate. I feel terrible and disappointed in myself. I have already owned up to thr client and the internal team and we are working towards actively fixing the reports. But there is this one sales manager who is being condescending towards me in every client meeting as well as internally. I worry that the client won’t renew the contract and also I’m worried about my job security as well. This is affecting my confidence in handling other clients too. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this?

I (42M) am tired of dealing with people, and tired of my fellow workers (and supervisors) not really caring.

It's a bit risky, but due to my VA disability (90%) and not spending too much outside of work, I could go down to 4 days a week soon (part time). Since 2 of those days are 9hr shifts, I'd end up at 34hrs a week.

But, I could still use the extra income, and I feel a bit guilty leaving them hanging. But, they are usually fine leaving me hanging. So fair's fair, right?

I also feel a bit of stigma after stepping down from being a supervisor myself, but that might just be my imagination.

I'm 23 and work as an account manager at a small digital marketing agency. We're about 12 people, mostly running paid ads and managing social media for ecommerce brands.

I've been here almost two years and make $48k a year. Nothing crazy, but it's the first job I've had where I genuinely enjoy going to work.

About six months ago, I was assigned to one of our biggest clients. She owns a successful skincare company, is 36, married, and I'll admit she's a very attractive woman.

Her company pays our agency a significant amount every month. I won't get into the exact numbers, but losing this account would seriously hurt us.

For months, everything was completely professional.

Then she started calling my personal number instead of emailing. Sometimes at 9 or 10 at night. At first it was about campaigns, but eventually she'd start asking what I was doing that weekend, whether I had a girlfriend, stuff like that.

I didn't think much of it because she's generally a very friendly person.

Two weeks ago, we had a meeting about her company's upcoming holiday campaign. A few people from our agency attended, and afterward we all went to dinner.

Everything was normal until we were leaving the restaurant.

She pulled me aside while everyone else was getting their cars and asked if I'd ever been to Paris.

I said no.

She told me she was attending a networking event there that weekend and had an apartment in the city. Then she asked if I wanted to come with her.

I laughed because I genuinely thought she was joking.

She pulled out her phone and started showing me flights.

Business class. Friday to Sunday. Everything paid for.

Then she said, "You don't need to bring anything except your passport."

I asked who else from the company was going.

She looked at me for a second and said, "Umm, you and me? Is there a problem?"

I didn't know what to say.

Maybe I'm completely misreading this, but a married woman inviting me to stay at her apartment in Paris for a weekend didn't exactly sound like a normal business trip.

I told her I appreciated the invitation but wasn't comfortable going. She's married, she's our client, and I didn't want to complicate our professional relationship.

She made a strange face and said we'd discuss it at Monday's meeting.

Later that evening, she texted me again about the flights and clarified that she'd wanted it to be just the two of us.

I politely declined again.

When Monday came, she stopped responding to my emails about the campaign we were supposed to run for her new product line.

By Wednesday, my boss had received notice that her company was terminating its contract.

He completely lost it.

Apparently she'd told him she was unhappy with how I'd been handling the account and had lost confidence in our ability to scale her new product line in Q4.

Now my boss thinks I somehow offended our biggest client or ruined the relationship. He's mentioned putting me on a performance improvement plan and said my position might not be sustainable after losing that much revenue.

I have the messages about Paris, including the flight details and her saying she wanted it to be just us.

But here's my problem.

If I show my boss, I'm basically accusing one of our biggest former clients of making an inappropriate personal invitation and then retaliating when I refused.

She's well-connected in our industry, and I have no idea how ugly that could get.

If I don't show him, I'm probably getting fired.

Theres also another part of this story that's been fucking with my head.

I've barely dated before. I spent most of my late teens and early twenties focused on getting my career together, and now that I finally have a stable job, decent income, I figured it was time to start looking for a girlfriend.

A few months ago, I started experimenting with exercises from the gravity doctrine method. The whole reason was to become more attractive and comfortable putting myself out there.

And because I have almost no dating experience, I genuinely don't know how to navigate situations like this.

I spent years trying to get my life together so I could finally start dating, and now I'm dealing with attention from a married woman who will probably ruin my career because I was trying to be nice.

Has anyone dealt with a client retaliating after being rejected? Would you show your employer the messages immediately, or speak to an employment lawyer first?

And am I wrong for interpreting the invitation the way I did?

It frustrates me when someone knowingly says they won't need sponsorship now or in the future when they actually will. Why give an answer you know isn't accurate?

I wouldn't treat where someone studied or their current employer as proof of whether they need sponsorship. I'd want that clarified directly.

For people handling applications, how do you clarify current and future sponsorship needs when an answer seems inconsistent? At what stage does that conversation usually happen?

I returned to the workforce last month and turned 58 yesterday. I am separated from my husband after 20+ years of being married and need to become self-sufficient. During my marriage I was a SAHM and took jobs at the schools my children attend. Those jobs were sporadic as we bounced around the country supporting my husband’s career.
I’ve taken a job as a receptionist in a teaching veterinary hospital and for the most part I love it. The problem is my counterpart, who is also solely responsible for my training. She is in her early 20s and is a pleasant enough person. I really like her a lot
However, of the 20 days I’ve been on the job, she has called out sick 8 days. When she is there she spends her time scrolling on TikTok (with the volume up); takes dozens of selfies (I presume she is on Snapchat as she talks about it all the time); disappears from our desk for long stretches of time and her catchphrase is, “Oh, that was my bad.” I have caught her providing false information to me during training and have been caught up in at least 2 incidents where her lack of informing me of tasks and protocol has left me with egg on my face. Fortunately, everyone is understanding and forgiving.
I feel like the absenteeism should be enough grounds for termination; people comment about her “never being there” or how I should use her computer because it “doesn’t get much use on her desk”, etc. There is a complete lack of work ethic, respect for coworkers and accountability. She shows up late, logs in, starts scrolling and then disappears, leaving me to carry the brunt of the workload with inadequate training. Honestly I prefer the days she is absent because I rely on obtaining info from other sources to learn the job.
Does anyone get fired anymore? A 40% absentee rate means nothing? Any advice? Right now I plan on keeping my head down for my probation period, but I document specific incidents multiple times a day in case one of her erroneous training subjects comes back to haunt me. It’s getting exhausting! Maybe I’m just too old and don’t get how things have changed while I was away from the workforce?

Hello, I’ve recently got an opportunity to maybe get a position at this food service place & for the next couple of days I’m on job probation training.
I’m pretty anxious being on probation, I’m terrified of messing up but it’s pretty normal as a beginner.
But I think a lot of my anxieties mess up my performance at work.
If anyone has some any advice I’d greatly appreciate it.
Thank you

Edit: I finished my first few days of training & I felt like I did average, I really am trying my hardest, I feel like I come off awkward & annoying.
I feel a little embarrassed that I couldn’t understand the person training me the first time..

So many reasons I hate my boss

1. She treats us like we are little kids!

2. Her favorites get away with murder, but don't do one thing and its anarchy!

3. Has told my coworkers several times "I don't care if bad things happen to you!"

4. Says everyone is nothing but thieves and can't be trusted with anything, but has a record of stealing.

5. Thinks the regular who is a CONVICTED

   Pedophile is innocent and did nothing wrong!

6. Says she's will not tolerate racist behavior, but fought tooth and nail to keep a racist former coworker employed.

7. Made a coworker work 5 hours by himself because she wanted to go to a party

8. Told my coworker I was doing witchcraft on her. Don't you need to be a witch for that?

9. She is very sexist! She refuses any application if it is a man, and won't be taking any more applications because "we already have 3 men already"

10. said it was sexual harassment to hug a coworker when they were having a bad episode with their ptsd. The coworker in question said it was OK if people wanted to give him hugs when he was upset.

11. Banned a coustomer for being annoying but won't ban the guy who has harassed multiple coworkers! One coworker has a police report against him for grabbing her!

12. Allowed another coworker to be racist to a lot of coustomers who don't speak English

TLDR my boss sucks and should not be the one in charge

I've been a nurse for the VA for the past 4 years. I work in a very kind of specialized outpatient job. I was completely overwhelmed at first with the bureaucracy and government-speak/language at first but everyone ensured me I would get used to it. Well, 4 years in and I'm possibly more confused than ever. I cannot keep track of the multitude of systems we use for communications/training and everything is an acronym that I cannot keep straight. I don't even know where to start to attempt to make sense of everything at this point. I'm overwhelmed and confused and my brain feels like it's going to explode. EVEN WORSE, the people I work with are so entrenched in the system, it's nearly impossible to get a straight-forward answer out of anyone. And new systems just seem to be introduced weekly. example: We are doing yearly flu shots right now and they are utilizing some new system, "eSure", or something - and I have absolutely no clue what they're talking about.

To give additional advice, I've been struggling with my mental health for the majority of my life and this job has only made things worse. I'm extremely anxious and depressed nearly 100% of the time I'm working or getting close to returning to work. I know my mental health is not helping the above issues, but I really wonder how much of it is me vs. the job vs. this just absolutely being the worst fit for someone like me. I think I need very direct and clear instructions and with the (U.S.) federal government very rarely the case.

Hoping someone here can empathize and give some insight. I can't go on much longer but I'm really really stuck due to making good money with good benefits including medical benefits my whole family needs.

I work in a grocery store, and my job is extremely monotonous. I just move cans to the front and make them look good. Sometimes it’s 6 hours straight of this, so “immersing” in the work gets old

I can wear my earbuds, and i usually listen to podcasts, but is there any tricks that make time fly by?

So I joined this company after being laid off from my last job. This company essentially created the role for me because they liked me but i was missing some qualifications…but there’s nothing to do. 95% of my day is spent on my phone and im treated like im doing very important work.

I am very uncomfortable here, i don’t do any work, and id like to leave immediately. But my manager is convinced I’m making a major difference here although I’m maybe spending 20 minutes a day working and she is STRESSED about some side project.

With no intention of using this place as a reference, is sending a resignation letter effective immediately via email acceptable? (I’ve been here 5 weeks)

Edit:

I did accept another position elsewhere. I should have made that clear in the original body.

So my partner and I are having a disagreement and I have a bunch of family shit going on and don't want to actually talk to anyone. But I do want to share this!

I left my (career) job in April 2025 after having a baby and being unable to return to work. I did take 3 months maternity leave and went back to a bar I used to work at 3x/wk since it fit my hectic infant & partner schedule. I've been looking for a (career) job ever since and didn't think I would ever find a job like the one I got, let alone a lesser job. I applied and applied and applied. I went through awful PPD and I took a break from applying due to mental health. I got better (no easy feat) and started looking again. I fucking dreaded working at the bar. I've just out grown it and don't have the patience for the petty BS that come along w/service industry.

I got a interview for a job I applied to but really didnt expect an answer from. Then a 2nd interview. Then they hired me!! When I first got hired I thought "there must not of been much competition" until I saw a quick exchange in a company chat about how meticulous the hiring process is, how several people have to watch your interview and approve you, and how you "wont cut it unless you're the best" (paraphrasing for anonymity). That made me feel so good. I realized I was having imposter syndrome and my confidence increased!

I've been getting compliments a lot and take pics of this sometimes to show my sweetie because I'm so proud. I'm not one to brag about accomplishments, so have really only shared this w/my partner, who is being a jerk atm.

I have been working hard in silence. Suffering in silence. Taking on more and more responsibility, in silence. I've become more disciplined than ever. Fit more in 1 day than ever. Managed multiple people's schedules. I've lost 45 lbs in the last 1.5 years and am 20 lbs away from my goal. I lost this weight naturally w/o medicine, ozympic, etc. There is 100% nothing wrong w/using medication to lose weight and live healthier. I am PROUD that I did it without medicine. There was a point I time I believed I would be fat forever and never muster the will to lose weight. But here I am.

My mental health is better than ever. I'm finally thriving. It took not only 34 years to be correctly diagnosed, but also an extreme life changing events (1st baby, buying a house, PPD, So much more, etc) to push me to therapy, and eventually the right doctor, and the right treatment.

I started my new job about 6 weeks ago and today I was awarded Employee of the Month. I've never been employee of the month, or worked from somewhere that did that. The entire company votes on who should receive this and there were a few highlights on what people shared about me. I cant deny I thought of this a few days ago and was like, what if? And then brushed it off. But holy shit!!! I've worked my ass off, not only in my time at this company, but in general to aquire experience to finally be able to get a job like this and actually be an expert at what I do.

There were times not so long ago I believed I would never find a job worth Damn. This field is what I want to do but it will never pay the bills (w/o a higher degree or 2nd job), yada yada. Ive been working 2 or 3 jobs for 15 years to survive. And I finally got to the place I dont have to do that anymore.

Moral of the story: Dont Give Up!!!! Ever. You can let yourself believe for a min, catch the break from the burden of responsibility, but then it's time to keep trying. Persistence & Hard work always shows itself!!

Thank you for reading ❣️

If a layoff knocked your confidence hard enough that even opening a job board felt difficult, what helped you start again?

The situation here is a former DocuSign employee about seven weeks after a first layoff. Motivation still hasn't come back. Along with the disappointment from losing the job, there's a growing feeling that the weeks since have been wasted. I'm retelling the situation; this isn't my own experience.

A full job hunt sounds like too much right now. I'm looking for manageable suggestions: something a person could finish and feel okay stopping after, instead of a schedule that becomes another thing they're failing at.

One practical option, when they're ready to apply, is letting autofill handle repeated application fields. Choosing a role still takes thought, but re-entering work history doesn't need to take the same effort every time.

What was the first thing that felt doable for you?

I operate LandOffer, the linked tool.

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More of a rant I guess. A few months back I was promoted into a new role. It was a big change for me-I was comfortable in my previous senior role and knew the job inside and out. A month after I got the role, my manager at the time got a new boss. Very quickly, this person arranged a meeting with myself and my boss and essentially changed my role into something I didnt apply for. Its now highly technical and detail oriented and outside of my comfort zone, but I always try my best and try to figure out any new job as best I can. Eventually, I could tell there was a little tension between my boss and new skip level, but my direct boss never really complained down to me. A couple of months after this, my direct boss very suddenly took a lesser role elsewhere in the company and I was moved back under my old boss, who in turn would be reporting to this new skip level. The thing is, this skip level is treating me like a direct report. Weekly 1:1s, I need to send frequent activity reports, and send them presentations days before the meeting for them to review. Everything I do has something wrong or there is something missing. Im not the only one going through this, as this persons new reports seem to be panicking as well, but I dont know the details. I feel like Im being set up for failure, which is a bizarre feeling for someone thats had "exceeds expectations" for years. Other than applying for other jobs, which Ive been doing almost obsessively since this skip level came onboard, how do you deal with this?

I very rarely call out of work. I only call out if it is an emergency. Covid (where we literally weren’t allowed at work if we had it), Granma passing etc. I think I’ve only called out four times (for those reasons) in the last 5 years. So like on average once a year.

Work doesn’t care and they know I have a great work ethic…I also have over 50 sick days because I rarely use them…but I still feel guilty lol. If I lived closer to work I would have gone in probably. But driving an hour and some change while sick then doing physical labor…I didn’t want to be trapped over an hour away and god forbid I started feeling even worse.

Does anyone else feel like this?

My supervisor is complicated. She can come across as nice and caring, but she's also a micromanager who is petty and vindictive. I've been working officially for the company for coming up on a 7 months, but I've been there for a year. She has not provided proper training, gets annoyed when I have difficulty completing new tasks, but won't allow other co-workers to assist me. As she wants loyalty and doesn't like the other managers or their teams. She has started documenting my errors through emails.

I'm currently out for 2 weeks due to an illness and on my return she wants a meeting with HR about my wellbeing and how they can assist me moving forward.

I want to trust that she's interested in my well being but I doubt that. Is this the beginning of the end?

I’ve been told not to tell them no, we can’t offer what they are asking for- but instead of calling them and being honest, I have to ignore their emails asking me if it’s doable, schedule an hour long zoom meeting to tell them we can’t and basically hold them virtually hostage for an hour trying to convince them on other products than what they want.

I hate sales

(There will be more grammatical mistakes pls don't mind )I am 25M finished clg on 2024 and with 2 years of gap I got my job 10 days before as a IT executive in a famous food restaurant I will be working on system and printer and cameras they are giving a good pay of 29 k in hand and i want to know that this job is good or not and this will help in my future also or not . I am confused literally I don't know what to do help me with this .

For starters, my company is super small. There's five full time people, including my boss at two locations about 3 hours apart from another. When I was hired, I was told that the company policy is roughly 2 weeks PTO. I've only taken 11 days off and received some pushback when I requested one more day off around Thanksgiving. My coworker at the same location as me also rarely takes PTO (mostly by choice, partially because there's no one else that can do his job when he's gone.) But both coworkers at the other location have taken more than 30 days PTO each. I think its partially because our boss works at my location, not theirs, so he notices when the people here are gone more. But I can't help feeling like its super unfair they've gotten over double the amount of time off as I have. I want to bring it up, but I don't want it to come off like I'm monitoring this (which, tbf, I kind of am). I also don't want to come off like a snitch. I've indirectly brought it up with one of the coworkers at the other location, but she kind of brushed it off. We don't have an HR department I can go to either.