I'm well spoken, it's just something I like being and something I took pride in being able to be growing up. But now, on Instagram and TikTok and etc, I'm finding that I have to dumb down my comments a lot and I'm wondering if this is good or bad. On one hand it's helping me be more concise and get my point across economically in terms of words spent. On the other, it's kinda dumbing down my English and also writing in such bastardized shorthand takes out a lot of nuances and caveats I want to also get across. Thoughts?

I’m looking for genuinely great resources on body language, nonverbal communication, facial expressions and microexpressions.

I’m mainly interested in video courses / training programs, but I’m also open to exceptional books if they’re considered must-reads.

I’m not looking for random beginner courses or generic “10 signs someone is lying” content. I’m looking for the legendary, top-tier resources — the kind of course or book where you think:

“If you seriously want to understand nonverbal behavior, you HAVE to study this.”

Topics I’m especially interested in:

* Microexpressions and subtle facial expressions
* Facial Action Coding System / FACS
* Reading body language in real conversations
* Posture, gestures and movement
* Eye behavior
* Voice, tone and other nonverbal signals
* Emotional leakage
* Baseline behavior and behavioral changes
* Social interactions, attraction, conflict and dominance/status
* Interview / interrogation analysis
* Spotting incongruence between words and nonverbal behavior
* Scientific / evidence-based approaches to nonverbal communication

I’m especially interested in full video courses with demonstrations, exercises, real footage and practice material, rather than just someone talking over PowerPoint slides.

Older courses are completely fine too. If something from the 1990s, 2000s or 2010s is still considered one of the best courses ever made, I want to know about it.

So if you could build the ultimate body-language learning library, what would you include?

Please mention the exact name of the course/book and the instructor/author if possible.

I’d especially love to know your personal top 3–5 resources and what each one teaches better than the others.

This is an ongoing problem that I have with myself. For context, I don’t really have any friends at all, just acquaintances that I talk to often. Even in my own family, I’ve only ever been super close to my sister.

The problem I have is that I can’t seem to have any conversations without coming off as either super boring, super weird, or super rude. especially that last one. At work I constantly get told off by everyone for having an attitude even though I was trying my hardest to be polite and vibrant. Everyone takes what as I say as super sarcastic even though I’m being genuine and I have to constantly go out of my way to explain that I’m being genuine.

and it goes beyond work too. I have had that same problem with my family for a while. I was very curt and only responded in short, very direct sentences when spoken to. I rarely even spoke on my own towards my parents. It’s definitely one of the main reasons my mom left me as a teenager. She got really mad at me for that.

After that, I thought I was getting close with my dad again. We started talking about video games and shows and all of that. I thought that was all I needed to do to be close to him. But when he asks about my day, or what I’m doing I just.. can’t respond. I never really process that he doesn’t want the most literal answer, even though that’s what I know that’s what it’s like, if it makes sense. or I already told him, so I try and politely remind him I told him about my day earlier. None of that works though.

he got really angry at me and accused me of calling him stupid and hating talking to him, even though that’s not it at all. I just don’t see the point in repeating myself about my day constantly to anyone, or telling them about the most uneventful thing ever because I wasn’t doing anything at that time. That’s just how it’s affected my family though.

There are many factors of this that have been really messing my life up. I genuinely want to be able to keep people close to me, but how am I supposed to do that when I’m insufferable to literally everyone around me? please, if anyone bothers reading this, I need help. Give me any advice you can, I can’t live like this anymor. I’m so incredibly lonely and it’s my fault.

So I know in the second course towards the cert there is SOME OSINT in syllabus. But I’m wondering how much OSINT skills are required to get cert. Like how much OSINT is taught in the course?

Please advise.

I live/deal with someone I can't distance myself from right now. I’ve already tried the Grey Rock method, and it simply didn't work. It just gives me the feeling that the person gets happier, like they won and got away with it.

Honestly, I just want to pull off a "Uno Reverse" so I can go about my life without being constantly stressed out.

And please, don't just tell me "oh, you just need to document everything." Right... because then I’d have to live like a paranoid person recording 100% of my day, only for them to turn around and make up something from 2 years ago anyway.

So what do I do? Do I literally start questioning their sanity to their face?

Like this: Them: "You said that last week." Me: "Actually, I didn't. I was even doing [X] that day. Wow, you’ve been getting really forgetful lately..."

Or do you guys have other strategies?

Because the person I'm dealing with... I honestly think they might also just be a bit clumsy or naturally forgetful. I've caught them contradicting themselves on the spot multiple times over small, silly things. Which makes me wonder: when it comes to the important stuff, are they just completely clueless and confusing everything, or are they deliberately gaslighting me?

What’s the best way to handle this?

Mirroring can create a feeling of connection before you even realize it’s happening.
Can you tell when someone is mirroring you?

Hello, I am a third year university student who and has always struggled with a deep and profound sense of loneliness as well as anxiety and I was wondering if anyone else has had experience with this and has and hopeful stories of how you have overcome it and become much stronger outside of it. I spend almost every second of the day alone and cannot bear it much longer. It’s not the talking aspect that I struggle with but more so the connection part. Reaching out to others and maintaining friendships, etc. I struggle to believe at times that people enjoy my presence or want to get to know me on a deeper level.

Now that Trump has renamed Lake Ontario “Lake America” for U.S. federal purposes, Canada should rename Lake Erie “Lake America” too.

The point would be deliberate ambiguity. Whenever someone mentions “Lake America,” you would have to ask whether they mean Lake Ontario under U.S. terminology or Lake Erie under Canadian terminology.

That makes the new name bad at its most basic job: identifying a place.

Canada can’t stop the U.S. from using the name, but it can make it inconvenient enough that everyone else keeps saying “Lake Ontario” and “Lake Erie.”

Hey there I'm kinda new to cybersec and very interested in initial access, since social engineering is a big part of it I red a couple of books about the psychology behind it and learned some of the tools, now my question is: how do I practice it if it's illegal to impersonate someone else and steal their information?

Contitions change any time conditions and I decide to adapt and handle wisely while playing my cards right to keep tension and undermine enemies who decide to don't invest on the cause, so who is on this spot maybe you can sahre your experience and tell how you manage it

So to start off, for a year, I had the group I would always sit with at lunch during school that I found on day one. I always felt included, felt great after every meal, we were all laughing and having an amazing time. However, close after the start of my junior year, things got strange. The people from the table started splitting (mainly because of getting gfs), but when they were just sitting with other dudes, it never felt planned. I felt myself seeking these people out instead of talking to them about a conversation that would carry on in lunch later. They then got back together basically (minus like two best friends), but they unified with another friend group in the grade basically. However, whenever I sat with this friend group, the conversation did not flow like it used to. I never felt included, and some of the kids would only talk to me in a condescending way. I get that friends drift apart, and that's probably what happened, but it felt intentional with these new people. That all is a simplification of the context for my situation. I'm planning tomorrow (as a senior) to sit alone at lunch. While this is a thing that happens of course, because I used to have a group that I sat with, I'm afraid that anyone who knows that and what we had, then sees me sitting alone will think of it as a social taboo to try to be friends with me. (good news so far since I stopped trying to sit with the unified friend group none of the kids who condescended on me have said anything like that since) But I'll update after the lunch, but I would like some advice for future situations like that if anyone has any.

Confession: I used to scam on roblox and minecraft servers for ingame items (USED TO that was 5+ years ago) and I would say I am decently skilled at social engineering.

I asked chatgpt randomly on how one can make money from social engineering and it told me about sales and stuff bla bla, but then it mentioned that some companies pay you to use social engineering and hack them??

what on earth does that mean and how do i sign up!!

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Look, I have autism too. I get it. You want to be a better social engineer. IDK maybe you think it will be beneficial for you to learn persuasion and SocEng. And it will if you do it right.

But here’s the problems:

1. most other autists on here want to be Machiavellians. Firstly, that’s not required to be a social engineer. Secondly, trying to be something you’re not as if you have a dark triad personality you don’t have will just make people (especially women) hate you. It’s the opposite of persuasive. It’s also pathetic.

2. Dark psych books are NOT good for SocEng. I know you think they are but they aren’t. Most of them are written by sociopaths who want to sell you cheesy manipulation tactics that don’t work and don’t hold up to science.

A better path for a beginner is start with HTWFIP and take a year or at least six months to master the social skills behind that at meetups. Then you can pick the next step, which is pick up a book by an author who ACTUALLY knows persuasion, like Hadnagy, Mitnick, Warren, or Belfort OR read other sales books and master that material at work or wherever. Another path is to get training from Social Engineer LLC.

But what will not work is reading shitty dark psych books written by someone who is out to make money because YOU are the one who got manipulated not everyone else at that point.