My son (15yo) is a freshman in high school. He played soccer most of his life-- competitive rec, not club. He was the top 20% in the rec league. As a dad, I missed the boat and didn't realize that I had to put him in club soccer to keep progressing. Keep that in mind for later. His high school is very competitive and a cut sport... he didn't make the team. 65 kids tried out for a freshman soccer team! So he was in a good company, not making the team.
He pivoted to XC. He never ran XC before. Team is no cut, met a ton of friends, loves being on the team, etc. In June '26, he started going to optional pre-season XC practices.. Season started August 1. He's dedicated and attends every practice and meet.
He started at not being able to run 2 miles without walking. His 1 mile time was like 12:00. Now, he can run 8 miles at a slow pace. His PR is 22:30 for 5k. I'm stoked and he's really proud. The progress was amazing in one season. He has been fighting some injuries... mostly feet/arch and shins. Feet are better but shin pain limits his long runs.
He has set his goals on Varsity by Senior Year. His goals, not mine. Almost all the guys on his XC team ran XC before HS. He feels a little behind, especially since one of his buddies, who is a senior, told him that he was running 17:30 as a freshman.
In my head, my son has 3 years to go from 22:30 to 17:00, which would put him on Varsity. That's not going to be a winning time, but it's a contributing time. I don't want to make the same mistake in XC that I made in soccer -- not seeking off-season coaching and also pushing a bit to achieve his goals.
What do I do? Is a freshman ending first season at 22:00-22:30 have a shot at 17:00 within 2-3 years? What would the improvement pathway look like?
Last, I was a runner, but always recreational. It's beyond my ability to coach him, but I want to support him.