I think people naturally assume that if a bull keeps coming back to the same couple, it’s because of the wife.

Obviously attraction to her matters, but after you’ve been around this lifestyle for a while, you start realizing the husband can be just as important to whether you actually want to keep dealing with a couple.

A secure husband makes the entire dynamic easier.

He doesn’t constantly test you, compete with you, try to establish some strange pecking order or act like he has something to prove. He knows where he stands in his relationship, he trusts his wife, and he understands that the bull isn’t there to replace him.

That creates a much better environment for everyone.

When there’s respect between the husband and bull, you don’t have to second-guess every conversation or wonder whether something that was fine yesterday is suddenly going to become a problem tomorrow. You can communicate directly, be honest about what you want and let the dynamic develop without the wife having to constantly manage two egos.

A good husband can actually make the wife more attractive because he makes the entire situation more attractive.

If I like her but I don’t trust him, I’m not interested. If I’m attracted to her and I also respect him, trust him and enjoy speaking with him, that’s usually a couple I’m much more interested in seeing again.

The best dynamics I’ve seen are rarely built on competition between the husband and bull. They’re built on respect, clear communication and enough confidence on both sides that nobody feels the need to constantly prove where they stand.

For the bulls who have had long-term dynamics with the same couple, how much did your relationship with the husband affect whether you wanted to keep coming back?

What’s your opinion on being a live in bull? Is that something you’re interested in, or is it just more of a hassle and it would be too messy. I’m especially interested in hearing from people who’ve tried it before! How’d it go, what surprised you about it, etc? Is it something you think you’d ever bring up yourself?

Some men gamble, some men are alcoholics, other smoke, other take drugs. My "drugs" have always been women. I like flirting, I like fucking them, as many as possible. I never had an issue with satisfying a women and all women I fucked once always wanted to get some more afterwards. So, I consider myself a bull. I always been an alpha and that can be confirmed by all my exes. But in the last couple of years, since discovering the cuckolding lifestyle I often imagine myself as the cuck. Locked in a cage, humiliated by bigger cocks, serving the men and offering them my woman. I am strangely attracted to cocks, never to men. With my current partner, we've experienced swinging. Nothing hard, just one time visit so far to a local swing club. We didn't interacted with other couples in a physical way...touching, kissing or something else. Just watching and enjoying eachother. All the time I was naked I looked for bigger cocks and imagined them taking my girl in front of me and fucking her like a slut while humiliating me. So, now I am confused. I always wanted to fuck women, I am more that capable of making them cum, I have a decent size penis, I like fucking other men's wifes...yet, I am also into cuckolding. I blame porn to be honest,but that is less important. My question is, what am I, how should I move forward and had this happen to anyone else?

its a very common fantasy for cuckolds, highschool bully fucking his girlfriend, but has anyone here actually done it? either in highschool or after?

was there every a boy you bullied so hard you ended up fucking his girlfriend? would love to hear any stories!

If a cuck asks you to humiliate him, what’s your guys initial reaction. Do you feel sadistic, happy, or see it as extra work. Also does your feelings for a cuck change before and after humiliating him?

Hotwife wants to go on a weekend long trip without the husband and this is my first time spending time with her alone, every session, the husband has been involved or been a part of it. To all the wives here or the couples, how often do you go on trips alone with your bull and how does your cuck handle it?

My wife is currently chatting through Whatsapp with a bull. He's the boyfriend of a girl I've known from University way back, and we see them every once in a while. They often make jokes about his apparently huge dick.

I know I shouldn't go through her phone, but anyway, I found out they were chatting to each other. At first it was just about them having sex, her being turned on by his big dick. He sent pictures and well, it is definitely big. But then he started telling her other stuff. Started insulting me, how weak and frail I am, that I can't handle her. That he'd love to give me a little beating in front of her, tie me up. Then fuck her brains out as I watch from the floor. Stuff like that.

I thought that would scare her off or be too intense. But... surprisingly, she's ok with it. On the contrary, she started to reciprocate. Telling him how wet those stories make her. Sending him pictures of her in the nude, her big tits and ass, her pouty lips. They're talking about meeting up one day but haven't so far.

Me being a cuck who would love to be humiliated by a bull, is actually almost a dream come true. I ended up telling her about it, but when talking to me, she became a bit softer. She says she likes the idea of him dominating her and me watching, but that she wouldn't necessarily enjoy me being tied up. I do get the feeling she says that because she wants to spare my feelings. I tell her that she shouldn't, that it's exactly what turns me on. But she's clearly still holding back a bit. I wonder how to proceed here.

I’m not white. My girlfriend is.

We’ve been in the lifestyle for a while now, and over time it’s become obvious that she prefers white guys. Older, confident, white men. She clearly has a type.

When she comes home from after date there’s a different energy. She talks about how natural it felt. Their taste in things align better and how he treated her like she was supposed to be with someone like him. And instead of making me angry, it settles something in me.

I don’t know how to explain it properly. It just feels correct somehow. Like the dynamic makes sense...

She doesn’t let me cum in her anymore.

That rule started after one of her dates. She came home still full of him, sat on my face, and told me she didn’t want my cum mixing with his.

I agreed. Of course I did. Anyone else on the same page?

So I'm a 25 year old male. Got to interact with many of you on this community and others before Reddit took my account down.

I bulled for 1 couple in the past and it was the greatest sex I ever had in my life. I was 21, in college, and they were 20. Had several other close encounters and got burned out. I kept running into demanding couples and frankly, some strange ones. Most of it being the husband closeted bi when I don't tilt that way at all.

I shelved the bull lifestyle to try monogamous dating for a second time. I've had 2 LTRs from age 18 to now at 25, almost 26 and it has been a painful experience. Not only am I just much more picky for a life partner compared to a sex partner, I am also a miserable person to romantically be involved with as I have a busy schedule except for a small number of hours on weeknights and the weekends. Not only that but arguments, various lifestyle issues, and time crunches always seem to put a huge strain on my sex life with my current and past LTR partner.

I am considering coming back to the bull lifestyle, for several reasons, but mostly because I have had some shockingly fun conversations with couples. I think my young age in the past, in spite of the fact I had some experience, turned me off from the bulk of couples in this lifestyle who range between 30s to 50s average.

Now that I'm on the other side of my 20s, things change quite a bit and the life experience gap starts shrinking.

I am also considering a vasectomy, not only for my own personal protection, but also because it seems to be hugely desired from a bull. If it means risk free creampies and more eager couples, I see no reason not to.

Thoughts? Advice? Thanks.

Have you guys ever had a solo beta man serving you outside of a relationship? Like for example, if you’re meeting or having single women over, they’d be cleaning up, getting things ready for you. Essentially, what a cuck would do if you were fucking his wife but this time there’s no connection. Could use them with couples in which husbands don’t really like being involved as much.

Is this common? Like a personal butler, or like even a slave maybe if that’s the right word?

Hi all, I’m a bull and have been in the lifestyle for some years and had the pleasure to help couples to safely start engaging in the lifestyle. Often, specially when the husband is the one seeking to bring the topic up, there is a preference to have a soft launch phase, where the couple can talk about the subject/idea of cuckolding in general terms.

Although l always caution to the results this approach might yield, as things can change when the topic becomes “us”, there are some cultural references l like to point out which facilitates this conversation, eg that the couple can “stumble over”, thus helping the soft launch. Here are some of those that l usually point out (from less pop culture to pop culture):

1. Molière’s Sganarelle - very very rare to be useful;
   
2. Flaubert’s Madame Bovary - as rare as in the case of Molière to stumble over;
   
3. Shakespeare’s Othelo - not very effective unless you happen to be somewhere where there’s a play that you can go and watch;
   
4. Joyce’s Ulysses - sometimes works specifically when the couple likes to read big books together;
   
5. The Killers’ Mr Brightside - for a nice playlist commentary;
   
6. White Lotus season 3 - this can help you have a nice discussion, specifically if you like to binge watch

Are there any other (pop) culture indications you usually indicate? I’m curious to hear your tips

Context - we are 22 and beginning our cuckold journey, but we are both in agreement that we only want a bull that’s been a bull a lot before and is aged 30+. Is that too restricted? Are we being too judgmental? Should we keep our options open to more people?

Male, early 20s, I’m not interested in cuck stuff, but I would like to be more sexually confident. There’s nothing wrong with me, just not sure how I gain the kind of confidence a lot of the men here seem to have who are bulls. Figured the guys here are the experts. Any advice would be great.

Have many bulls come across a vixen necklace?
I purchased one for my wife and wherever we go, she has it on some of the looks we are getting are hot. it’s a good deal opener.

I’m someone who’s interested in getting into this fetish on the bull side, and was wondering what generally works for you all as far as meeting couples goes?

Is a cuck sending daily wife pics to a Bull a thing, and whats their turn on? Sharing exposure, knowing someone is getting excited with those pics or receiving complements on the wife? :)

I’m reaching out to you Bulls respectfully to get a different perspective.

My girlfriend and I have been exploring cuckolding for about a year now. When I “confessed” my fetish to her, she was surprised at first, but she’s since really come around to the idea. We’ve talked about it a lot, played around with it, etc., and are planning to start looking for our first Bull soon.
The only sticking point: both she and I are submissive. However, cuckolding often involves the hotwife also being dominant over the cuck (at least that’s my understanding).

What’s your experience been like? Has the hotwife become more dominant towards the cuck because of you and the dynamic? Is there a way I can encourage this development from the cuck side?

I’m bi-curious and I’ve never been in a relationship or have had sex with a woman. But I find it incredibly arousing to imagine myself in a relationship with a woman and being cucked from the get go and kept pussy-free (I guess you could call me a virgin in that sense).

Would this kind of dynamics be interesting for you as a bull? Like would this turn you on or would you be less interested?

And I mean how does one start from 0? Haven’t told the wife yet though I think she won’t mind. It’s clear to me that this is the lifestyle I want to get into. What are things I should be doing at this stage? Any advice would be appreciated.

Should I get my wife a black dildo? we use a 7 inch pink one but it's not that realistic. I've been wondering about getting a realistic one, i think it would be so hot to watch her ride it.