Being Aro with physical desires is definitely tricky, I wanna try something different.

Recently divorced, busy dad, and working 2 jobs, and whilst I’ve met quite a few people here for some bedroom antics, there’s something so much better about when you have a deep vibe & deep chemistry, agreement on certain worldly issues etc. I know this is something generally not so easy to find compared to the “fuck buddy” situation I’d usually go for. The me from 10 years ago would have never imagined myself uttering these words 😂 but it makes things so much better being able to feel completely emotionally safe & relaxed whilst I’m inside the person I’m with 😉

Let’s test each other out, take each other for a test drive, just for the fun of it, add some connection to a time we often spend indoors.

Open-minded and respectful, whether you’re experienced or just curious, I can lead either way. I prefer meeting fairly early, quick video call or something fun like 8 ball pool or some card games. One thing to truly believe from me, there is never any pressure from me to do anything, you can always pull out of whatever plan is made, I only ask that you communicate so I can also plan accordingly on my side.

Done a lot of introspection over the years, almost healthy attachment style (plus very interested in psychology). 5’11, Stocky Dad Bod (I prefer father figure) West African, South East Londoner, born & bred. Neurodivergent too, so bear with me 😅

I have a much more vulgar version of this intro - I’m quite the kinky guy - DM if you’d like to hear it.

Just found out about Aro Allo connect, why not give it a shot. If you're a woman and would like to meet another AroAllo, hit me up. I talk a lot.

I'm not actively looking for anything in particular, just want to meet new people that share this view, and realized New Zealand was yet to have a post in this sub (I'm not a permanent resident here, but will stay a few months still)

i'm surprised there aren't more seattle posts. title+flair says it all, DM me to talk meetups or just to flirt!

I turn 19 in a month, btw

TLDR: "Baby" trans guy, gay, polyamorish. Busy with work and school half the time. I like hazbin hotel, bojack horseman, rick and morty, swimming, rollerblading (not the best at it, though), most music but mostly rock, and am an aspiring gym rat (not actually I just wanna get toned) and would like a gym buddy. I want more close guy(ish) friends 🥀 and of course, maybe FWB

I'm trans, early on in medical transition, just on HRT for now, but I plan on getting top surgery within 5 years and maybe bottom surgery in the far future. I've been on HRT for about 5 weeks, so I'm still pretty androgynous. I'm only interested in FWB with guys and maybe man-aligned nonbinary people. Also, I'm polyamorous (mostly).

I'm self-employed (art commissions) on top of being a part-time worker and full-time (online) student, so I am pretty busy, but I expect not many people will be near and interested, anyway.

I have quite a few interests, mostly the stereotypically queer type. Favorite shows are probably Hazbin Hotel, Bojack Horseman, and maybe Rick and Morty, which was a recent brief fixation of mine. I do occasionally participate in fandom, but it's not something I do consistently since everyone loves to argue in the fandoms of my favorite things.

Besides that, honestly, can talking about sex be a hobby? I genuinely enjoy talking about sexual preferences, even just with friends. Also gender. Stuff that relates to the LGBTQ+ community in general, I like talking about that. I also like psychology in general. Might be autistic. Idfk

I am open to doing most activities. I enjoy swimming and skating (rollerblading) and can hike short distances (think maybe 2-4 miles), but I'm honestly pretty sedentary on average. Also I really want to get into going to the gym at some point but it's hard without a buddy so if you genuinely just wanna be a buddy I go to the gym with, that'd be great.

I do love music, but in the surface-level way where I tend to not listen super closely to lyrics or get to know band members. Generally, I can find a song I like of any genre, but I prefer rock and numerous sub-genres of it. However, I listen to indie folk stuff sometimes, pop other times, it depends on my mood.

And obviously, I love talking, lmao. Hope ya consider lil ol me :P Comment or throw me a DM! I'm not the most active on Reddit.. If it ends up being an issue, Discord is my go-to messaging app.

Healthcare professional (although daydreaming about escaping)

Keeping fit with regular gym sesh, run, surf, and whatever else

On days off like to read in the park and attend the occasional dance class

Open to new experiences

Like to think I've got a bit of a sense of humour

Travelling for work and got a weird schedule

Interested in FWB's or something casual

figured its time for me to make my own post lol. im in college studying animal science and just wanna make some new friends or whatever. i like video games, card games, board games, rollerblading, pokemon, david bowie, douglas adams, and a lot of other things lol. if ur in the area that would be peak after talking online but im down for online friends as well :) i got discord or insta if we vibe too. i dont have notifications on for reddit so ill get to comments when i get to them lol. uhh idk what else to add so yeah 👍

Hey everyone, I hope your day is going well.

So I've known I was AroAllo for several years, never had any real interest in dating, honestly many of the things people associate with romance either didn't appeal to me or made me cringe, so I never pursued it, no point if you don't have the interest after all.

What I would like however is to get the chance to meet someone who is also AroAllo, something I genuinely never thought I'd get to do IRL due to us being rarer than unicorns, but now that I've found this place, seems only right to try and find someone and see what happens.

So a bit about me, I'm 29, white, 5'8, dark hair but is graying early due to genetics, I wear glasses and I'm about 200 pounds, I enjoy many fandoms including anime, video games, movies, ect. I love to draw and write, creative fantasy is my favorite subject, I also enjoy animals, mythology, and other things, feel free to ask.

I don't expect this to lead to anything physical, in truth I don't really have experience in that, never found anyone I felt comfortable enough with that didn't have romantic feelings for me, last thing I wanted was to lead anybody on so I never did, I believe in being upfront and honest, so in all honesty, while I would enjoy having someone I can enjoy being close and intimate with, it's not a deal breaker if we don't.

I don't know if I have a type, I am straight of course, and I do love strong assertive women, just have the confidence to say what you want and that's a plus for me, beyond that I'm hoping to meet someone who can share my interests and we can just talk and get comfortable with each other, no pressure, just wanna feel at ease and be able to say what we're thinking, and obviously know what we're going through.

So if this speaks to you, feel free to shoot me a message and we'll see where it goes, please be patient if I don't reply immediately, I work two jobs so I have to manage my time, thank you and have a good day.

Heyyyy,

Nsfw account for obvs reason but I’m a 22 yo bi/pan male who’s looking for some online fun. I’m in a QPR but it’s non-sexual so looking for someone to have some fun with when we’re hot and bothered really and maybe chat a bit as well.

Preference wise I’m open to anything I have mostly had men/masc in whatever form enby, trans or anything in between but v open to whatever and exploring new things!

Only other thing age wise is I’d like some around my age… happy to go younger (obvs 18+) but just anxieties etc would not go too much older than me please!

Outside of this I’ve got Audhd and am rather nerdy playing dnd and a bunch of other bits so if ur into nerd culture I’m sure they’ll be common ground!

Happy to chat with people about what they’re comfortable with and just see where things go rly so if ur horny and wanna have fun DM me :)

Best to DM on here and then see where things go but happy to move off platform too :D

Yeah it's not confortable for me to make this kind of posts, but let's give it a try ! Don't hesite to message me even if it's a long time after this message is posted, I might still respond.

I'm an introverted person, so my past experiences are... close to none. So I'm basically open for anything and experience where it can go, or just being friends.

I have a very restricted area of interests, because I often fear what's new to me, but what I like, I tend to get really passionate about it.

I love moutains. From where I'm from it's the Pyrenees, i go to them close to every week to hike or for skiing, most of the time. I love to be so remotely lost in nature that I can tell myself that the nearest creature might be a bear. I love maps too, so I even know a lot of areas I've never been to. Finally I like meteorology. I like to go and see anykind of climatic phenomenons, clouds, storms... take pictures, timelapses of them.

When I'm not outside, I'm mostly playing games, again, always the same ones, I write a bit of music, and I make small videos with the pictures I've taken.

Looking forward to meet somebody out there !

So wsg Reddit
My name isn’t super important but you can call me Kay for now

I’m 20 amab agender and use it/they/he
No real order of preference just whatever you feel most comfortable with using on me

One last aside before getting into the Nitty Gritty, I’m from the Ozarks Region of Missouri, but I’m not looking for anything irl, my parents would absolutely lose it, but what they don’t know can’t hurt them, so if you wanna get hot and heavy with me, just send as little or as much as you feel safe and comfortable doing in whatever way you’re comfortable doing it
So don’t be afraid if you’re not from around where I live, honestly I’d find it cooler if I had a partner from another country

Back on topic though

I’m well, let’s just say rather unique

For starters I’m autistic, with looking to hopefully get tested for paranoia/schizophrenia sometime soon, so if you can’t handle manic breaks. I’m sorry but I don’t think that would work out, I’d need someone who could support me and wheel me out of that extreme state

So aside from that I also have a condition called melolagnia

Idk if I wanna get into too many specifics on a public post but long story short record scratching and DJs get me going WILD!

so if you hadn’t gathered from earlier, I live with my parents still, but hopefully I’m on track to getting disability so I can start saving to move out

What I’m seeking in a partner is just someone who gets me really
Someone who has either lived through a similar kind of pain or knows how to treat someone who has

That’s a long angst fueled vent for another day though so I’ll get onto more important stuff

I’m not the most conventionally attractive, I can’t really shave as much as I wanna and I’m roughly 220 lbs (nearly 100 kg) at roughly 5’9” or 5’10” ish (roughly between 175 and 177 cm) so if appearance isn’t as much as a factor to you as I’m worried it will be for people here, go ahead and hit my line

Speaking of, where you can reach me

I don’t mind using Reddit but would prefer using somewhere else for convenience sake

For reasons I would prefer to remain undisclosed, I cannot and will not use discord. If that’s a deal breaker though I’d rather not be with you

But I do have a Twitter and a Tumblr

My Twitter is @lydlyst and my tumblr is the same

I can tell you my NSFW Twitter in further correspondence here or on either of the two aforementioned socials

NO TELEGRAM
sorry, but I just had a really scary experience on there and just can’t help but see it as an immediate red flag now. Not your fault, just what getting nearly blackmailed does to a mf

So now, onto my interests

Basically anything really
But if you want some broad strokes
History, mythology, gaming, music, linguistics, tech (especially retro tech) and to a lesser extent films and books

So if you’re still reading this far down I assume I’m at least somewhat interesting, so don’t be afraid to shoot me a comment or a DM or anything to let me know you’re interested

I’d love to get to know all kinds of new and interesting people and possibly make some fun and wonderful connections

Real quick to finish up what I want in a partner

Generally feminine body type, you don’t have to be a cis woman to qualify though, femboys, fem presenting enbys, transfems and so on are welcome as long as you aren’t the super buff hairy type

I’d like to meet fellow melolagniacs but I know that’s exceedingly rare so don’t be afraid to message me if you don’t get what that is/aren’t one

In terms of sexual content shared back and forth you’d have to be comfortable with at least erp/sexting

Maybe swapping hentai/porn back and forth

And if you’re really the casual fun slut type (my ideal type btw I love the kinda partner who makes you bust a nut and bust a gut) we could do pics or vids of each other assuming I could keep my face hidden (y’know, just personal safety)

So…uuuhhhhh, yeah
That should be everything

Feel free to hmu if you somehow made it down far enough to see the conclusion to all of this

Thank you for your time and consideration, and I’d love to see you soon ;3

Hello everyone, I honestly don't even know what I'm really looking for. Maybe just acceptance and people who can relate to me. It's honestly already a bit of a relief to write this, because it's not something I would share with my friends and family of course. Sorry for my extremely long post, but this is a way for me to feel like I'm expressing myself correctly. And maybe I can even help others who relate to my story.

So I'm a heterosexual aromantic 28 year old guy living in the Dutch province of South Holland with, if I may say so myself, reasonable life experience, but to be direct; with a total exception to sexuality or sensuality (basically I'm still a virgin). It's not something I feel ashamed for anymore. Actually it’s the contrary; life is really enjoyable as it is; I have a lot of friends who I really enjoy to spend time with and I would literally do anything for them. I'm so lucky to have my friends in my life! 

But I have honestly been feeling lonely in these last few years and it's something my current close friends unfortunately can't fix. I mean I can hang out with them, but at the same time I'm not really able to show my emotions to them; not in a vulnerable way. Hell, I don't even know why but I'm honestly scared of being vulnerable, although it's something I desire so much some days. Nobody asks me how I feel; and although I've nothing to complain about about my life in general, I also just miss simple affection and someone who is able to listen to me and comforts me. Sometimes I honestly just want to be able to cry in front of someone, but I can't, because showing vulnerable emotions makes me anxious. I know, it's weird, but it's the way I feel.

A few years ago I found out I might be aromantic (now I know for sure). The idea of romantic relationships feel very unnatural and overwhelming to me (or at least the way how society portraits it). I always just thought I didn’t met the right person yet, but I have also never experienced a crush for anyone in my entire life. To my belief it's (generally) much harder to identify aromanticism in comparison to let's say asexuality, because there’s no way to know what romantic attraction is supposed to feel like if even alloromantic people can’t really explain what romantic attraction exactly is (or I just can’t grasp the idea). And society often simply doesn’t recognize or consider the existence of aromantic people. Well; we exist of course.

In my case; I've never felt romantic love in my whole life (the feeling of butterflies, not to be confused with "love" by friendship – and I think friendship can be just as complex as romantic love, although some people would argue it can’t be). As a consequence I've a lot of friends I deeply "love" and care about, but I've never been in a (romantic) relationship before and after forcing myself to date I also found out I can’t and don’t want that.

I’m really happy with the friends I have in my life, but it kinda gives me a fear for the future: I don't want to grow old alone, but I'm also aware that most friends are not permanent; especially when they get into romantic relationships themselves. I've seen many friends eventually prioritizing their partners far above others, which is logical for them, but also scary, because I don't want to lose them. For most people romantic love is apparently way stronger and important than 'friendship love'.

So at some point I pushed (or actually forced) myself to date for the very first time ever (I only started dating around 3 years ago I think; I know this sounds strange around my age), and came to the conclusion that it always went way too fast for me. I never felt anything, but I suspected my dates always desired things I couldn't give them. Simple things as holding hands and kissing feels unnatural and therefore uncomfortable to me, although I'm not completely repulsed by it; it just feels weird. I can read when someone is flirting, but I would always much rather prefer non-romantic conversations. Even when they were interested in my, I would nearly always reject them after the first date, just for showing romantic gestures; it's overwhelming. So when I found the term 'aromantic' it actually instantly clicked. I researched it a bit further and connected the dots. As of dating: I know society portraits as the difference between a relationship-partner and a best friend, but without romantic attraction I can only see them both as equals. Some people would say I'm looking for a FWB and technically that's true, but I don't think I'm less serious than anyone who claims to be seriously dating. I prefer to call it a QPR, or a queer platonic relationship (relationship without the romantic aspect).

what/who I’m looking for

Mainly a close friend whom I trust, grow comfortable with and with whom I can in time be emotionally vulnerable with. Maybe a cuddle buddy or someone who likes to give and receive soft touches, lots of hugs and honestly just companionship and a listening ear, without any expectation. And maybe we even grow into life partners. I see a life partner as my absolutely best friend, with whom I'm able to even live together (but still have a lot of personal freedom). Terms like monogamy or polygamy simply don't work for me, as I see them as societal constructs, based on romantic jealousy. I don't mind both sexual exclusivity or inclusivity, as it wouldn't make me jealous if you would have more sexual partners at the same time. But if you prefer a single sexual partner that's also okay with me.

For me it's important to get to know you and build on a friendship and trust first before anything else. I hope you understand.

About me

I happen to be a massive nerd in tabletop roleplaying games. It has become a core part of my identity. As a matter of fact, I play D&D, Pathfinder and all sorts of other TTRPG's at least twice a week and have quite a collection of boardgames. So if you're also maybe into them, let me know!

I describe myself as kind, caring, very progressive-leftish and activistic about climate change (I don't expect you to be on the same political spectrum of course, but it would be nice), open-minded, enthousiastic, but at the same time also introverted, a bit shy and maybe even incredibly awkward when I don't really know you that well yet. 

If our conversation turns to physics or astronomy, I'm not sure if you would be able to get rid of me, provided you ask the wrong questions hahahaha. Maybe I am a bit of an obsessed nerd in that field ;)

Also important: I'm childfree and in the process of getting a vasectomy (basically turning me infertile). I'm only conventing to absolute safety as I don't want to take any risk. This is non-negotiable; for me it's not even fully a financial decision to never want children: it's also about my personal freedom. I travel a lot (I mainly try to avoid touristic places and big cities, in exchange for nature and isolated culture) and don't what to give up that freedom. Who wants to join me on the most awesome trips around the globe ever?

Apearance

If you would like to know: I'm 1,88m, 79kg, white skin, green eyes, brownish/reddish hair (depending on the light and season) and no beard.

Hopefully I catched anyone's interest! Sorry for this extremely long post and thank you so much for reading to this point :)

Ask me anything if you like! Also don't hesitate to ask me any questions about my experiences with aromantism; I would gladly help

I live with my parents BUT I DRIVE, so I’m willing to meet pretty much anywhere. I like gaming and live music, and if you frequent any nerd-themed groups or events then I would love to be clued in; whether anime or fantasy or what have you.

I do want to focus on making friends first, b/c I think that’s smart, and I am always looking for some meaningful connections as my current social circle is tiny and insular and I don’t love that.

When it comes to sex my magic word is UNSERIOUS. I have a lot to learn and explore, and I’m not about to do it with just one “special someone” or however it’s phrased, like ever. I know lots of you probably relate - that’s why I’m here!

looking to make in person connections, not interested in long distance right now. im straight so for anything beyond friends, im looking for women. im super physically affectionate and love cuddling and kissing. open to sex as well but tbh it's not a huge requirement for me. im fine with casual connections or no strings attached, or a deeper emotional connection or qpr. very open to any type of relationship, just don't want anything monogamous. reach out if you're nearby!

EDIT: PLEASE STOP MESSAGING ME ASKING IF I WANT TO HAVE SEX. IM BEGGING YOU

Pretty much a vent but I need to hear from people that im normal. That things can work for me. Somehow? Maybe?

My friends are off with their partners having sex or doing sexual things. And im jealous. I have never wanted a romantic relationship. Ever since I was young I have only ever wanted a sexual relationship. (Too tmi to talk about here)

Only a few years ago did I put two in two together and come to the conclusion that im aromantic. But the only "partner" ive ever had was a middleschool boyfriend. It ended within a month and his friends sheepishly told me he didnt want to date me anymore. And I said okay, thought it was weird that everyone made it such a big deal

But as soon as anyone would initiate any romance, id immediately pull away. Disgusted with myself that they could even see me in such a way.

But sex. I want sex. I was YOUNG role-playing sex with strangers. I was still young looking up porn. Ive only had physical relations with one boy when I was in hs. And then nothing.

Hearing my friends tell me what they and their partner are gonna do together, im happy for them (theres no tmi between us)

But im so jealous. I want that. I want that kinda stuff to be done to me. But I dont want the doting on another person. I dont want the kissing and the pet names and the romantic gestures and dates

Friends with benefits sounds nice. Sounds amazing. We have sex and then idk we just sit down away from each other and watch videos on our phones or something? But i dont like strangers. I dont want to be intimate with strangers. My only solution is more masturbation. More porn. More sexual roleplays with friends. That's all I have. I do want that connection. But the more I talk to the people around me, the more I realize that we just dont understand each other. They see me as heartless sometimes. Like asking if id "give aftercare" and like idk ive never even kissed someone- I went straight to dry humping in the hall..

Life is confusing. And it often feels like ill be alone forever. Cause how do you bring that up to someone? How do you initiate a friends with benefits? Especially with someone tou know personally. And especially when you know most people feel romantic attraction?

And I feel like im the problem. Im not doing anything wrong. I dont lead people on. I tell them right away I dont experience romantic attraction. I dont allow someone to linger on me when I realize they may be falling on me. And when they admit it, I cut any sexual bond. But I dont want to meet people in my area. I dont like people. I dont go to anything but familt parties. I dont do well with new people. I dont like change. I dont like risks. No clubs. No alcohol. No parties. I dont drive. I dont have social hobbies. I only go out with a member of my family. Or a group of family members. Theres no chance to meet anyone. Im paranoid and lonely. Idk even know what to do with alk this info about myself.

I'm willing to find a friend that i'm willing to sleep with, either another NB person, or a woman (Cis or Trans), because i'm also a lesbian. My dms are open :]

hey there! im looking to meet or connect with any other aroallos in the region, itd be nice to make some irl aro friends :'))

I would honestly just enjoy having a friend or someone I could talk to that can relate to the aroallo experience, and isn't afraid to talk about sex and the like! You don't have to be near me, but it would be nice. Not sure where I stand on online sexual relationships right now, but I'd prefer to be somewhat close in age for that.

I love books, art, rollerskating, kandi, video games, and any other hobby I pick up (there's a lot). Not a big movie watcher but I love animated films and shows. I try to get outside when I can but my state is winter 6 months out of the year </3 I'm open to getting into new hobbies and medias as well!

I never use reddit so preferably you have some other social media like Discord. Looking forward to it!

I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for. I'd eventually like to find a life partner, but I'd also like to meet people who understand what it's like to be AroAllo(though I didn't really know myself until recently). I don't mind romance, I actually quite like it in fiction and the idea of it. I just don't feel it and can't really imagine what it'd actually feel like. More friends is always nice, I guess. If that includes sex that's just a bonus.

I am straight, though if you just want to be friends you can still shoot me a message. Online friends are fine too. Also, I live in North-Holland, but I can travel a bit to meet people. Just don't expect me to go to the other side of the country every week.

I've been identifying as aroace for a while, but I think I might be more on the allo side? I know for sure I'm aro but the other piece I'm a bit unsure about is whether I'm on the ace or allo side, but recently I've been leaning more towards the allo side. I'm still virgin and never had a relationship, QPR or FWB. Interested in chatting with someone who also understands what its like to be aro. I'll be online quite a bit this upcoming weekend, especially nights eastern time, so feel free to send a message ^^

Hi, I'm not going to present myself, as my intent is not to find a relationship for me as such. I'm single but I have friends, and for now I'm content with that.

However, I miss IRL connections with people from the community, as I've only known 2 people in all my life, and only have a friendship with one of them.

So I'm asking, is anyone here from Spain, and would like to set something like a meeting this summer? I'd love to participate in something like that.

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Let me know if there's someone interested!!

Hey there, ok so I'm super not used to doing that, but why not give it a shot I guess.

As of right now I'm straight and I feel aromantic allosexual, and I'm happy with it. I'm mostly interested in meeting new people and talking and sharing experiences and hanging out and whatnot 👋🏿 I'm sure y'all have many cool hobbies to share, and so do I 🌟

Have a good day